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Is it natural for us Aspergerians to not get along very well with our families? Because mine to me are like complete strangers who just don't get me at all, and with whom I feel highly uncomfortable talking. I feel far more comfortable talking with total strangers about my problems than my family, since mine is embarrassing to talk to, since they either laugh or get angry, considering how trivial some of my annoyances may sound. They act like autism just disappears when you grow up, which it doesn't, and have zero empathy for me, since they're supposedly "neurotypical." Dinner is not something I look forward to, since they *always* choose to have it during the news, which just upsets me, considering how angry I am with the world, and they *know* it, as well. I have all this anger stored up inside me, but nowhere to put it, yet when I try relieving my anger by say, whipping towels against my bathroom sink, they accuse me of "destroying the house," even though I'm not. I choose to write this, incidentally, after a dinner gone somewhat wrong. I'm just curious, that's all.

With me it's very simple. I relate to my mum and nan, that's it. The rest of the family I don't know and I don't care. I think that because you accidentally being born within a certain family doesn't mean you ow them anything automatically. No way!
I don't know if this is an asperger thing, but I choose whom I care about and love and that has nothing to do with family at all.

Same here,
Mine don't get me at all,
Never did,
parents and sisters were and are totally blind to my existence,
well,they gave me a lot of attention because like many aut i draw a lot of attention but it felt like they talking to someone else,not me.
Total strangers from the other side of the world, whom i never saw, understand me and know about me a great deal more than the ppl i grew up with and shares my genes,
beyond the anger and pain i find it amazing,
especially when u take into account that i am 55 and had very unusual life, to say the least,
u would expect normal ppl to learn something from experience and facts but NT are immune to reality,
my family have no doubts they get me in spite all the evidence to the contrary
sometime their stupidity and lack of caring is really frightening,
lucky for me i never had to put up with them too much since i grew in a Kibbutz were children didn't live with their parents and i meet my sisters very rarely.

I get along with my immediate family quite well, but there are some family members that I can't stand, even though I can go years without seeing them.

One of my mom's cousins is an evangelical preacher (and a crooked one at that). Some evangelical pastors are known for preaching in a loud voice, sometimes to the point of it sounding like screaming. And I am rather sensitive to sudden, loud noises. I try to avoid him and his wife as much as possible, even though the last time I saw them was 9 years ago.

I can't imagine how they would react if they knew that I was planning to vote for Obama (which even my parents nag me about), watched South Park, and believed that it was ok to have sex outside of marriage.

My mom and I have a strained relationship, because she is convinced there is nothing wrong with me and "I can have aspergers if I *want* to have it". yeah, I love her but I had to move a little far away so every time I see her I can appreciate it. I talk to her all the time but she really doesn't get me. My dad totally gets me, but doesn't understand the diagnosis. My Sisters say that I just have low self esteem, but since being on "medication" I don't feel sad but I certainly still have issues communicating and being obsessive compulsive. so yeah the family acts like i am strange, but are unwilling to accept that i have aspergers or that i am just different. Sucks.