Distraction

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OK, so over the past couple of months I had a pretense to develop an internet relationship with someone but a few days before I would have made an arrangement to meet her she suddenly went for someone else. I was and still am pretty upset about this. My usual strategy to get over girl trouble is to find new women that I'm interested in with a view to having other prospects, I find that I tend to feel better fairly quickly this way. However, college doesn't start for me for another few weeks and for two of those weeks I'll be out of the country to see my father.

To be frank the past few days I've been having trouble studying (I'm beginning my project work before term starts, and discussing it with supervisors), masturbating and sleeping, distracted by thoughts of her. I find the prospect of this mood continuing for the next three weeks at least to be unpalatable. If anyone has any tips to get over this I'm open.

I wish I had the answers. What I did was simply try to distract myself, but I doubt there is any quick fix.

It was suggested to me that I should maybe try out an old hobby or something. I might take up writing again. Certainly I don't plan to spend much time on the community she's on right now, it's not nearly as enjoyable for me now. I certainly let my guard down there, I haven't been hit this badly in six years at the very least. I haven't really improved since.

I have been in situations similar to yours numerous times.

I haven't, really. I'm used to being shot down quickly or finding out she has a serious long-term boyfriend. Since my teens I've come to know better than to commit myself that much with someone in real-life who I haven't even dated, but the internet is different.

Three weeks later I've just returned to college and I feel slightly less upset about this, but only slightly. I'm unsure as to whether this is something I should be particularly concerned about or whether it will fade completely with time like the last time I remember feeling particularly crushed (which was seven years ago). I'd talk to other women but at the moment I don't feel as excited by them as I would have been last year. I guess my lack of any prior success with women has added to my impatience.