On the verge of a meltdown...

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Today, my stress levels soared because of anxiety and confusion caused by my inability to relate or understand other people. When people try to small-talk to me, for some reason it really irritates me, especially when they ask me loads of question. My parents often ask my loads of question and I really, really dislike it. I'm also getting upset because my routines aren't going as planned. I can feel a fit coming; I want to bash my hands against a wall as hard as I can and burst into tears, but something is holding me back.

Hi Sirunus. There are times I feel like that too. That's when I try to relate to my interests in solitude. I like to go to the bedroom by myself, get under the covers (if it's cold) and work on my laptop computer. My family knows to leave me alone at these times because they understand my needs. I either work on my novel, or I play a few rounds of solitaire on the computer until I either get sleepy and take a nap, or I get feeling better mentally and rejoin the family downstairs. But the important thing is that I have time by myself to absorb in something I find relaxing. Do you have an interest that you find relaxing? Do you have a place where you can enjoy your interest in private? If so, I think that is important when you feel like having a meltdown. If you don't have such a place, try to find one. At first, my wife didn't understand my need to get away from everyone. But now she does understand it. When I feel a meltdown coming on, I say, "Listen, I need to be alone, I will see you in a little bit." This usually works for me. Feel free to respond to me about your needs and with anything I can do to help.