I've just had a major meltdown

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I need help... but not sure what kind of help... some support I guess.

Firstly, if this is in the wrong forum, then mods, feel free to move it if need be.

Ok... I've just been brought back home form college.. I don't rmember everything that happened.
There is this horrible old man who works in the computer room at college. I go in there sometimes to do work, or generally surf the internet.
Then my mum rings me (he was out at this point) and I was talking to her about uni and filling in an open day form for the uni I'm thinking of going to.
Then the man tells me to go out, and I swear at him (there were loads of people talking and I was trying to have a convosation with my mum) and he starts walking to me... I heard people sniggering. Next thing I know he's taking the computer mouse off me and switching everything off and I lost it. I shouted at him and he just said in his disgusting, patronising way 'I think you had better leave now'. I think I hit him, but I can't rmemeber.
I remember shouting and walking up to the staff room and a few of my teachers were in there... I was just shouting (can't remember what I was saying, If I even said anything at all) and I went up to the wall and knocked my head.

After that, I was lead into a class room and a woman sat with me and my psychology teacher came to see me, then I was brought home.

I've been slightly depressed for about a week now.. nothing major... but I had an issue at work yesterday with a customer taking photographs of me and I was angry and self harmed last night, was upset because, with my social anxiety, I never know what to say to opeople and I fear confrontation... so he just took a photo of me... I told my manager and she said they had an issue with people like that before.

then my sister and bro-in-law came to stay... I don't mind them, but it really changed my system and I felt a bit lost... out of routine.. so I didn't know what to do... and then that man today...

I really don't remember a lot. I'm scared of going back to college for fear people will call me psycho.

Can anyone relate to this and share experiences??#

I really need some support.

Thank you

Charlie

In most computer rooms people are not allowed to make telephone calls because it disrupts other peoples work.

Is this the case here?


Magliabechi.

There is that rule yes, but the room was packed, the man was out, everyone talking, and I was having a quiet convosation with my mum.
A rule for one is a rule for all. I've had it all my life when others can break the rules, yet I am the one who gets told off. (others use their mobiles in there too... it was lunch when I used mine, and would never use it during lesson time).

A rule for one is a rule for all, and if others get away with it, then there is no rule there... I will not obay a rule that it not enforced. This is what tipped me over the edge.

I've been bullied all my life, and I will NOT take it ever again.

This man in question is also a pedophile.

turborocker5000, why did the old man ask you to leave? Anyway, he sounds like a disgusting power-hungry person. I might have done the same thing as you, and I WOULD have done something.


If you ever have another meltdown or want to, you can PM me if you want someone top talk to.

So it seems that everyone was breaking the rules but this individual chose to target you because you seemed vulnerable. That certainly is the behaviour of a petty and power hungry individual. I strongly advise people in your situation to do what I do: to follow the rules anyway. This will eliminate any reasons whether legitimate or otherwise for characters like this to attempt to harass or interfere with you. You can then work with confidence knowing that if they ever step out of line you will have a clear basis for a formal complaint against them.

What you will need to do now is to draft a letter to the college that makes it clear that the harassment by this individual caused you serious harm and distress, making it clear that he targeted you because of your disability. Take care drafting it over the next few days. Also you will need to go to your GP and explain what has happened and how the distress has affected you. This is important because confirmation from a medical professional gives your complaint (of suffering serious psychological distress) a legal basis- this is vital.

If you fail to stand up for yourself by following either this course of action or a similar one, then this predatory individual may force your expulsion from college either on the grounds that you were disruptive or that you assaulted him. That is how predators behave; they are predictable.


Magliabechi.

What makes you suspect he is a pedo?


Also I can relate. I also remember being discriminated. Other kids would break rules and then I would too and I would get in trouble. I struggled to be treated the same.

Of course my mother told me the kids knew where the lines were drawn so they knew when to break them and when to stop. I didn't.
Also friends don't tell on each other so if one of them did something and a teacher asked who did it, none of them would answer but if an outcast does it, they get ratted out. That's what happened with me.

BUT

My mother had me video taped in class to see how I act in school and she saw kids being goofy, not paying attention, not doing their school work, etc and there was me well behaved and then later in the day, I would start to act up and my school made a big deal out of it. Of course my mother took my side. So I was truly discriminated.
The kids were caught on tape acting up and did the school staff decide to do something about it or even make a big deal about it? No. Did they decide to do something about me and make a big deal about it? Yes.

Or did they not watch the whole movies like they did one time when I was in 6th grade? They only watched the end of it because the tape was too long for them too watch and my mother asked them if they even watched the whole video and they said they don't have the time to watch the whole thing. My mother recently told me this when I was in Montana visiting.
If that was the case the whole time, it still feels like I was discriminated.

Charlie, don't worry about it. A lot of students have break-downs in college (usually in the run up to exams). People usually feel sorry for them, they don't think they're psychos (you may get the odd remark from some particularily immature classmate, and some may be overly-supportive to begin with, but you'll soon be yesterday's news )

Yeah, you got stressed out and shouted a lot, but you're not sure if you even hit anyone; in fact, you weren't acting a whole lot worse than the average student on a night out! I'm not trying to make light of it or say that it's ok- you should get help and find better ways to get rid of stress. But nobody was hurt.

I'm sure plenty of people know the guy in the computer room is an unpleasant character; I'm sure they were equally aware of his double standards, so it's not like you apparently just psyched out over some stranger. I do agree with one of the above posters though, it would be best to just follow the rules diligently in the future to avoid idiots like that.

im sorry u got meltdown ,i hope u feel beter now though

Hi everyone, you all made really good supportive commenmts, so thank you everyone

I'm feeling a bit better now, still a bit drowsy, but I'm ok. Whne I called that guy a pedo, I wasn't thinking straight.. I was angry.
I'm just recovering... 'meltdown hangover' someone called it.

Tjanks for your support, though, everyone, I really appriciate it.

Charlie

I was going to ask why a paedo was in your college but you've cleared that up for me! Glad you are feeling a bit better now. I have similar problems and I often feel like I am picked out of massive groups for doing very minor things (which, by the way, the other people are doing too!). No justice huh?

You -did- swear at him, though. When he told you to leave (as you were on the phone, which is another rule break). I would've left the room or cancelled the phone-call if someone rang me in a classroom.

That's enough grounds for sending you out.

He may believe that phones disrupt computers, like they're supposed to disrupt the running of aeroplanes and such.

But yes, he should've targeted the group as a whole for being disruptive, and not just you. You were probably the only one on a phone, that's all.

I've had many arguments with teachers over the years. It's just another reason why all educational professionals should learn about learning disorders.