The Sound of Anger a Threat?

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Is it just me or does every Aspie suffer from this.

The Sound of Anger makes you feel either Angery or Suicidal, Scared and Unsafe?

How to I overcome this problem?

By the sound of anger I take it you mean the sounds of people yelling angrily or verbally fighting loudly?

Sometimes hearing it makes me cringe, but mostly it has no effect, if it is not directed straight at me. If it is, I often get a physical alertness reaction, flushing and so on, but not suicidal, scared or unsafe.

Have you suffered a lot of angry abuse? I did from my sister and when she blows up at me I feel scared and unsafe, even though she is smaller than me.

Wow, is it self-control?

I still live with my parents and there's no way out so It's really hard for me.


Anyone here on WrongPlanet, if anyone knows how to deal with this problem, let me know, ASAP.



Anyways, I know that it causes me Anxiety until I get really sick.

It makes me feel unsafe or angry depending on who is arguing and what it is about. I worry about spillover anger directed towards me (accidentally or purposefully) for existing within striking distance of the other parties.

Yeah, I hear ya.

My Anxiety is usually out of control when my parents are stressed out about something. It can be anything as long as they are raising their voices or making untruthful threats like "I just want to break someones, etc.).

I'm not very close to my family but I always fear that they are going to be agenst me in some way. And because I secretly identify as Androgynous and am attracted to Masculine Tomboys, I'm afriad that if they find out about that, something bad will happen because they are simple thinkers and they are homophobic so anything they consider strange, they are agenst. I have no idea what level.

I can definately relate to this. Any time someone is angry I'm afraid their anger is eventually going to turn to things they don't like about me.

Bring her home and be happy. You are a man and she is a woman, so you can have kids. That is all your family needs to care about.

It really depends. Sometimes i laugh when my family is angry. Alot of the time i am confused and overwhelmed by it. In fact anger never rubs off on to me. If someones angry towards me outside home, i usually become immediately on guard and very anxious.

Even though my parents are kind-hearted when it comes to survival skills and supplies, living with my parents is kind of like a reality show.

It's like an announcer saying.......

"What if an Aspie goofball who is emotionally sensitive at times needs to live with a couple who is very very serious, rarely laughs at anything, boring personalites and when they speak, it's either something that needs to be done or something personal about the Aspie's life"

I got about 6 months left and then I can finally live on my own. I'm still waiting for my appartment to be ready.

> Wow, is it self-control?

> I still live with my parents and there's no way out so It's really hard for me.

When I used to hear my parents fighting when I was a kid it disturbed me, too. Now I live with my husband so no scary people in the house. The people I hear fighting might be in the street or in another room. I agree that if I had, say, a boss who was always screaming at people and blowing up, I would be jittery and uncomfortable, dreading it to happen to me. Then I would quit.

Try to stay sane, hang in there, and know you will be out of there in some months. If they just yell and don't ever hit you or hurt you, try to tell yourself it's just words and you have nothing to fear. It's hard to remain calm when there's something upsetting happening, I agree. Just for me it's not usually anger but other things that get to me. Just try to step outside yourself from the point of view of an outsider, and see if there is a serious problem or danger. Sometimes it helps calm things to remember that in the long run it will not matter one day in the future.

Oh, god. (Sorry for being offensive if you take offense to this...)

I cannot handle anger at all, because it makes me angry. Two days ago, during school, the fire alarm was pulled. Mind you, this was no drill, not with ice on the pavement. Turns out kids from another part of the group-home campus were planning to jump someone else on the same campus. I tossed myself in a nearby snowbank once I realized what was going on, and I was crying for the next class's worth of time. I didn't get involved, however, I had ran away a few minutes after I dived into the snowbank to one of the few teachers who understood me (I mean, sure, all the teachers there KNOW I'm an Aspie, but few really know-know). She had been hugging me out in the cold... ugh. That was one of my worst days and if it wasn't for the teacher, I'd have been worse.