nightbender wrote:
my mom gets upset when i mention some of the crap that has been done to me by them. She is quick to defend my dad and insist he is blameless. When i point out specific examples they say it never happened. Is it possible to get them to confront their destructive ways?
No it is not possible for you to get them to confront. They have to be willing to it themselves and if they don't you will just make the situation worst. It is best to leave the past alone or deal with it yourself with a counsellor.