My mom gets upset when i mention the abuse i have endured

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10 Jan 2009, 2:43 pm

my mom gets upset when i mention some of the crap that has been done to me by them. She is quick to defend my dad and insist he is blameless. When i point out specific examples they say it never happened. Is it possible to get them to confront their destructive ways?



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10 Jan 2009, 5:32 pm

probably not. it was the same in my family. you just move out and establish your own life away from them, because once people are locked into that kind of behaviour they stay that way. their myth of themselves as 'good' or 'nice' people is at risk and they aint gonna give that up easily or willingly.



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10 Jan 2009, 11:24 pm

most familys have two parents .. I've got one mom and more than a dozen or so father's




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ok a liitle explantion my mother is my only true parent : however due my being in a group of old men and coulples : they have all taken me under there wing I see it a make sure I'am walinkg and sometime s running down the correct pathway. And even at that one has told me straight up that I'am within the family of brothers.




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11 Jan 2009, 12:17 am

nightbender wrote:
my mom gets upset when i mention some of the crap that has been done to me by them. She is quick to defend my dad and insist he is blameless. When i point out specific examples they say it never happened. Is it possible to get them to confront their destructive ways?


No it is not possible for you to get them to confront. They have to be willing to it themselves and if they don't you will just make the situation worst. It is best to leave the past alone or deal with it yourself with a counsellor.