My grandmother passed away ...

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... and I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me, because I'm not mourning for her very much. I didn't really know any of my grandparents very well, because they lived in Mexico, and I only got to see them a handful of times in my life. Besides, they didn't speak English, and I never learned to speak Plautdietsch, so they were all basically strangers to me. I do think it's probably hard on my father, because he's lost his mother, and I don't think you're ever too old to suffer from the loss of a parent. But I can't help wondering if the death of a grandparent shouldn't be touching off some kind of sadness reflex in me.

Probably more of a stunned thing. Plus you can't mourn someone you barely knew, just do your best to be understanding of your dad and all.

Sympathies and prayers for your family though.

An old person you've barely seen and never really talked to died of old age. I see no reason to be sad unless you killed her, and I'm not suggesting you did.
There is no sadness reflex.

Definitely.

I was over 50 when my mom died, and it hit me incredibly hard. Best you could do is be supportive of your dad's loss, and otherwise conventionally polite as far as what people might expect you to say or do. Do not expect to miss or mourn someone you don't know well.