i don't want to go to school anymore

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I get sick and tired of school, i don't even learn anything at school but i do learn alot at home (in my free time) why can't i just stay home then!?... I've already accepted the fact that there is no good future for me out there so why still bothering going to school then? I'm better of home, i don't even want a degree. Ill work in some crapy low-paid job i don't care, never did. The only reason i'm still going is because i HAVE to, my stefdad gets pissed even when i stay home a day so just staying home for a day never frigging works not even when i'm really ill... I also know that my house sucks i don't have an own room/privacy or, well anywhere decently to play on my computer. I would do anything for a little privacy, i feel mentally messed up when there are people around!

I have (had) the exact same problem. But now I'm switching schools and I'm going to be in a special environment so hopefully things will get way better for me soon. Maybe if you spoke to someone at school (school counsellor or whatever) they could do something similar for you?

Autistic people NEED time alone and privacy. We tend to hate school for the social aspects. I faked sick A LOT! I absolutely hated middle school and high school. Now, college and grad school were better though.

I'm so sorry for all you're going through. I know it's hell.

Damn, I wish I knew really what to say here.

I begged to drop out of school when your age, actually a little younger. Your home setting was different then mine, but in an odd way the same. See my Dad was as strange as I was, but he did very very well in school and just could not understand why I didn't. I learn better on my own, in a different way then schools do it. Most of them anyway. But, let me tell you a little about my dad. Big name colleges, universities wanted him and he said no. He was a brick Mason almost all of his life. So one day I asked him why and would he do it any differently given a second chance. he said, yeah I would, I would have been a carpenter because they get to use math more on the job. Now that statement is a bit deceiving, he wasn't just talking about numbers. I don't do numbers, but I do the math, is the way I put it now. He then went on to say, he liked the mason trade because in this area you don't work as much in the Winter and that gave him down time to pursue what really interested him. A degree is just a piece of paper. But to get out of your hell, and believe me I do know about the school hell, not only being in it, but coming home and hearing about me being an utter failure, you may have to just get through it with teeth and finger nails dug deep into the desk.

That piece of paper is really worthless, but in this world where most think it's way more important then it really is, it will open doors for you later and that later is when you can start to carve out your own place in this world. Mean while keep learning on your own, it will serve you very well. Any way your heart goes there is something to be learned and never ever stop learning. You just have to see it in what you're doing at any given time and sometimes it's the simple that is the hardest to see. That my friend is what they don't teach in schools and it becomes easier with practice. It is so in their face they just don't see it. No, a degree is just a piece of paper, it's what you learned and how you use it. The whole world is a big class room, be both the teacher and ever the student, they don't give out degree's here. You really have to earn them and they don't come on a piece of paper. But they can be a big short cut. It took me some 18 or so years to get into a trade that others could with just a piece of paper that I didn't have, except when I got there, I taught them. Throw away that piece of paper this is how it's really done, welcome to the world kids. I opened the door wide for them as best I could and some of them are doing things now that just make me proud as punch to have helped them along their way.

Don't write off your future or school - whatever you do. Don't accept that you will not be independent and successful.

I was terrible in school. But I learned it wasn't SCHOOL - it was MY schools, at least after 5th grade.

I didn't learn about all my learning disabilites until I was well into my 30's - then again, they didn't have "learning disabilities" when I was a kid! Everything was pretty black and white. I was exceptional in some areas but was completely held back by math and also my overall disciplinary problems. I was voted "Female Class Cutter" of the PGHS Class of '83...an original slacker a la Spicolli.

I don't know what options you have but I'd research the hell out of them on-line, if I were in your shoes. I only wish I had someone (parent? teacher?) who understood me and could have helped me. I might be an immunologist working at the CDC today hunting viruses and finding a cure for HIV.

As it is, I survived and thrived and get to write about those things for a living...but I'd rather be doing them AND writing about them.

You may not have a parent or teacher but you have us!

SHADAP! You'll go to school and you'll like it too! Fool! So, you think you'll just be happy with a low paying job, huh? You say that now. I'm 48 and when I think back at the opportunity that I had but would not take because I was a fool like you are now, I want to just lie down and die.
If I had made something of myself, I could give SO much more to my husband and children. I would have so MUCH more respect and satisfaction with myself. Do you have any idea what it feels like to sit in a room among successful people and have not a daggoned thing to say about accomplishment. It makes you feel like a turd. When my kid tells me about his classmates parents being lawyers, doctors, writers, teachers etc... I feel nothing but raw SHAME. What do I have to contribute...well, duh, I worked in a supermarket. How impressive for my kid to hear!
I worked as a cashier in a supermarket among all these young teens who only worked part-time there while they were in school with plans to make something of themself. What they did just to get to have some chump change to spend was my whole salary...a real genius aren't I?
My husband has friends whose wives are successful, educated women...microbiologists, nurses, managers, PC programmers, and what am I? Sure, I'm a good wife and mother but so are they! Do you understand why you must go to school and make something of yourself?
Every day I tell my kids not to be a sap like I was. I tell them to get an education like their father, to be smart like their father. They listen. This makes me glad. They will have a future. God forbid if my husband left me. I would have to go on welfare because I made nothing of myself. My kids couldn't go to college if they had to depend on me to support them. I can't support them. Do you see now why you simply MUST make something of your life? Even if you went to a community college and got a certificate to put yourself into an entry level position, that would be a nice start. People who get even a two year degree in nursing or a hospital career do very well. Think about this! Life isn't always about you, it's mainly about the life you give to those who you gave life to. If i die, I have NOTHING to leave my husband or kids. If I were successful, I would have something to leave them. The only thing I could leave them is advice...that advice is to make something of yourself, get an education! After you die, there is nothing. You don't look down upon your loved ones. There is no afterlife. Once you are dead, you really are DEAD. The afterlife is the DNA you leave behind...your children. Will you leave them pennyless? What kind of example did you set for them? To be truly alive is to THRIVE...not just to flounder and survive. Get up off your lazy bottom and thrive. with love...someone that cares.

school is destructive as hell and it was nightmare for me. however, once you get your high school diploma life is much much better!! ! i think that the things i learned in school were worth the abuse, humiliation, and loneliness that my middle and high school experience was.

Took that word right out of my mouth. Well not exactly, I had a few more to add.

The basic human problem, you are living in the past. Everything you say is true, and over.

The only way to deal is gain control of now. Now is the only thing that can free you from the past.

The deal here is an unknowable future, and that is your only goal.

All of this past will be way past and forgotten in twenty years, the world will be much different and so will you. That is life, and the game you will want to play, so stick it out, quit being yesterday, gain control of today, and it will all get better.

The jet engine had just been invented, flathead Fords were hot, Univac was the only computer, and fifteen years later I was working IBM stuff, someone had gone to the Moon, or filmed it in Texas, and I had some great toys.

Nothing about my education prepared me for the world that came to be except, I can deal with that, I can read the manual and figure it out.

I am strange and quirky, but I found places I was a perfect fit. I was the night shift computer janitor that kept the day shift running.

You are just naturally sick of being other directed, the answer is being self directed.

School was not worth much to me, and the tech stuff that I was interested in was not even taught, there was no such thing as a degree in Computer Science.

What I did learn was just getting by, for most of life is not well run, and I found people would pay me to tell them how it should be run.

Dealing with the problem is the only skill.

Geez, you're giving me heart murmurs. I've started this msg several times. Okay, lemme try again - I'm 59, you're 16. Guess what, John Lennon was right, life is what happens when you're making other plans.

Here's what I did: finished high school, some college, got a nice job, got nicer jobs all the way up, I was bullied, hated loathed & despised all of them, threw away my good earned $$$ on various consolations over the years, finally cracked up entirely and then found that I have AS and *should not have been asked to do that.* (burn, burn, burn)

Okay, so I'm a little biased about what you should do, see?

Are you bullied at school? What are your marks like? What happens if you 'play hooky' - do they still call it that? I skipped 62 days out of the last 5 months and I passed okay, and graduated.

Any bullies at home? You need some privacy, I thought I'd never get a room of my own. And I didn't till I got my own apt. But maybe you could do what I'm doing now, yes I have my own apt but I'm de-sensorizing it.

Please tell us some more abuot life at home and at school.

I'm not sure if this is good advice, but...

When you grow older, you begin to care about different things. Things that used to matter won't matter as much, and things that didn't matter will suddenly become important.

I used to play a lot of video games at your age, and now I spend a lot of time helping people. There was a tremendous change for me in what mattered and what didn't.

i was always alone at school
lunch time sitting by myself was public torture
bullied - yes, some - 1) a guy said that i am the biggest dumbess he ever met in front of his friends
2) at camp i was the laughing stalk of the whole bunk and i heard they kept making fun of me the next summer after i left
3) kids would not talk to me in school
stuff like that until i graduated high school and got a full time job. oh boy, my work is such a confidence builder. being an adult is soooo much better than being a humiliated/powerless teenager. my advice, cope with the loneliness/humiliation/etc., get your diploma, NEVER try drugs/alcohol/smoking. I'm 22 and I've never drank even at parties i used to hold a drink my hand and people were like, why aren't you drinking? so stay away from this addictive stuff and you'll be fine! things will be much better when you grow up.

I droped out of highschool and don't really have much of a future. I still think I made the right choice.

I don't think that it's just autistic people that need more privacy at school.

I've been reading several radical analyses of state school systems.
These analyses are basically saying that students need time and quiet space to themselves during the school day so that they can collect their thoughts and recharge.

These analyses claim that being jostled constantly, being watched in the corridor or having to use crowded library facilities makes learning and retaining information exhausting.



That was later in College for me.
The Library and my room were sanctums.
I just couldn't concentrate on my work with all that chatting going on in the open planned class workspace.

Here's a story for you.

One day, when I was in Grade 10, a boy who was one grade lower than me was talking to his girlfriend about what a ret*d he thought I was. I got so sick and tired of what the majority of the kids were like, what they wore, what they liked, and their opinions about the kids who needed the extra help, that I told him that I was going to drop out. He said, "Yeah, right...that will be the day." I've packed all of my books into my bag, and preceded to run into the lobby entrance way. Just as I opened one of the doors, my science teacher spotted me. He asked me what I was doing, and I told him that I was dropping out, and I was going to become a hippie. He told me to get back inside, and he followed me back to the resource room. He said to my LD teacher that he caught me attempting to drop out. I wish that I would have done it, anyways.

dude you are missing on the best thing that will happen in your life - work. work = great confidence builder. work = independence and self sufficiency. work = skills high school never taught you. at work, you say little things to your coworkers, like, "hi, how are you." you learn their names. you work in a team. you feel useful and important because you get things done. now it is much easier to get any job with a high school diploma or GED. the GED takes a lot more work the passing high school classes. so think about it.