Depression from a unsupportive family and changes

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I changed from last summer from making more insights of what other people feel and think. Even though this is a good thing and is a step of being more independant, I'm having problems ,mainly, with my Mom of how she reacts and towards me,the family, and my Dad who could care less, my sister who has a very sarcastic personaility.

The reason why I won't tell my family of my depression is that I cannot make any compromises and it's not taken seriously from everything being so unconstructive of being teased,drama, and no one listening to me. I already told my Counselor what's going on before but it didn't help at all, it got worse over time from me when saw things more in-depth.

My Mom still thinks i'm a kid(I'm 17) and dosn't like the idea of me being independant since she wants my attation when she could get it. I notice now and looking back in the past of how she would want to influence me of thinking what she wants and what builds up her confidence but not mine, It's hurting me a lot and the advice from my counselor dosn't seem to work.If I say something she dosn't like, I get in trouble. I can't date since my Mom dosn't take High school relationships seriously beacuse it dosn't seem like love to her and freaks out if I talk to younger women(over 20's) and from girls who are very interested in me.

My Dad could care less of what I have to say,impatient, and could be a hypocrite. He could care less how I feel and isn't the type who would like to hear it.

My Sister is very sarcastic and isn't flexible of how things work, I hardly take her decisions seriously from how she treats me and thinks I'm overreacting from it.

Here's the list that is affecting me.
1.Confidence is very low
2.No support of my choices
3.Lower energy
4.less focus in my classwork
5.Can't sleep from thinking of the issues that's going on
6.Regret alot from not nocticing this before and I feel very guilty from not being more independant 2 years ago(could've changed alot of how I feel)
7.Regret of not having more confidence, independance, and higher self-estem.
8.Feel like my parents can't trust me
9.frogetting more then usual
10.missing out the opprotuinties of asking a girl out and feel guilty of not finding out how before things were getting to late for me.

I know what you mean about having an unsupportive family. It can be very frustrating, and suck the life right out of you. You really don't know what you are missing until you are around mentally healthy people who are positive, loving, encouraging, and supportive. Don't blame everything on them though, as they probably have their own issues to deal with, the same as you.

Also, your mom sounds like she might have a personality disorder (narcissistic).

I understand my parents care about me and are supportive but they don't understand how to raise teenagers.

hi camera,

im sorry you feel this way. please don't blame yourself. you are not to blame for having a low self esteem or being depressed. i am a mother of a 5 year old boy that has asd. i pray that i will listen to him and his concerns but there are times when i don't, i might be busy or think that what he is talking about might just be overreacting. it is nothing against him, i love him to death. but sometimes i need to slow down and listen and talk to him. maybe u can try that with your mom? sometimes we are so involved in what we are doing, we don't take time to listen to our children and try to understand what they are trying to tell us. and i don't think it's the fact that your mom doesn't trust you, i think she might not let you date because she doesn't trust OTHER people. social situations are very good for you so i hope your mom changes her mind and let's you date. don't worry about missing an opportunity with a girl, everything happens for a reason. if you miss a chance, it was meant to be. the girl for you will always be there.