Parent Anxiety: Personality disconnection & LOUD TONES

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Like I say all the time, my parents are kind when it comes to supporting me in terms of survival and teaching me how to survive on my own.

But that's it, that's all. It's that enough?

At times they act pathedic in terms of visioning everything as a happy family and geting into my business and s**t.

They don't know me at all because I shut down my whole personality so I can seem as dull as them so they can leave me alone, never works. They pick my personal business as a topic of small talk conversation which in my opinion is totally re***ted!.

My father looks in the TV guide and pathedicly says it out loud. "Oh let's see what's on TV for everyone tonight, ooooo, Cartoon Network for Eric, Garfield is on tonight........"

Even though I'm a cartoon / cat lover. I don't really care for Garfield much. They don't know me.

My Step Mother keeps talking about how the food that she's eating tastes good as if she wanted to have a huge discussion on how the food is and how pathedicly and happy in denial we all are.

Family Values my a$%! Doesn't exist in my household!

GOD, it's like I'm talking to soulless zombies.

This household is just plain DEAD to me. DEAD!
No life in it what's so ever.
It's a freakin' prision for me who wants to be a freespirit but needs someone by me to inspirate me because of my low-selfconfidence.

Well, I got 6 more months in this Prision sell and I'm off to my first appartment hopefally it'll be ready by then.


I don't know about most of you and your relationships with your parents but This Aspie is about to have several Live in front of his parents Meltdowns if he can't find any outside sources to express himself instead of bottling it all up so his parents wouldn't critize his nonconformity and Anti-Normalless.

It's probably because I lack a social life but I've developed a strong hatred for my parents. My step mother (in law) rarely works and she's home for 3 weeks now. She's a mentally ill neatfreak. So I have to make my bed and get dressed and clean off the top of my dresser before I can go use my restroom which is down the hallway.

I feel traped and isilated. PLEASE TELL ME IF YOU ASPIES GET THESE FEELINGS, I SERIOUSLY NEED SOMEONE TO RELATE TOO.
I can't enjoy my life at all because when they are home, I feel that I'm getting supervised all the time. They question me about my personal life probably because they need a source to pick on in order to make the family interesting.

All I want to do in life is to be my true self. I want to be a non-conformist and enjoy more of a Hippy, New Age culture. Do something extremely Childlike and make myself and friends laugh all the time. Laugh at the world and act silly and spontanous just for our own amusement. And to not be ashamed that I'm Androgyne / Genderqueer and hopefally get a change to date Women who identify in the Masculine Gender (Women who dress, talk, look and behave like Men) and Androgyne's with the ENTP personality type. That's what I want to do with my life besides Caring for cats, making cartoons and fooling around with puppets.


I want that Hippy Freedom!

I've discussed plenty in another post I wrote intitled "I want my Androgynous Life" that talks about how I just don't feel like I'm a Man or Women.

Is this all because of Asperger's Syndrome, or is it just me?

I'm female, but I can relate to you in some ways.

I left a topic days ago about leaving home, but no one left a comment. Here's my post:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt93442.html . . . I think I forgot to mention other reasons for leaving home.

Sometimes I don't act/think as a normal woman. My parents expect me to act like the adult and feminine older sister.

The difference is that your parents agree with you about leaving home. In my case, they don't want I leave home because "I'm just a girl"


I haven't told anyone my plans about leaving home. I'm feeling a mix of emotions: joy, fear, sorrow, fury, . . . I'm scared because I'm not sure if I will success by myself. . . but if I leave home I would take total control of my life, be myself . . . yeah, it's an important decision.

I see that your 22 and your one year older that me. LOL But seriously, this is what I did. I told my parents that I'm an adult now and I want to live on my own. Also ask about being on a list of appartments. If your parents don't put you on a list of appartments. Since your 22, you can call a place locally if you can be on a list of appartments. The only thing about this is, it takes awhile. I've been on a list sence 2007. I will probably get my pad this fall hopefally. I hate living here because I feel the culture here and my parents personalities are dead to me. Can't relate, don't wanna conform.

When you stand up for yourself towards your parents, try not to yell or get angry at them or say anything negitive even if they sound rude or raise their voice to you. Trust me this is hard, but the more you look good for your parents, the more they will trust you. It worked for me.

Well I guess I just got in some big trouble.

It's on this post
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt94306.html