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Hi all...

I am probably posting in the wrong forum...but I just found out my 2 year old son has Asperger's, along with SPD. My husband also (at 34 years of age) just discovered he does as well, as does his father. I am not entirely sure I don't have some mild form myself, I do have a few strange sensitivities and always had trouble socially, until I studied the "rules" long enough that they became ALMOST 2nd nature to me.

I am really scared for my son. I love that he is unique. I just know both my husband and I have suffered from a lot of inner turmoil, anxiety, and depression, and it has been a hard road. I never wanted any of that for my child.

I think being misunderstood is the saddest, loneliest place to be. I spent most of my life there. It's ironic that those people are often the ones with the most beautiful souls.

I guess I just needed to post right now. Thank you.

hi, i think that your feelings of fear and apprehension are normal. i'm not a parent myself, but i guess its normal for a parent to guard their kids against the difficulties they have encountered. you say that people who are misunderstood are the saddest and lonliest, but you have more of an understanding of your son than a nt mom might have.

That is so incredibly normal, yet I know it doesn't help the outcome much. I'm in your shoes, so I get it. One thing I keep telling myself is that I have knowledge now, to help my son, that no one had for us when we were little to help us along. My son is 10 now and an incredibly happy little guy. He hasn't had it easy all of the time, but shockingly, most of the awful things he's been through were at the hands of adults, not his peers. In the end though, he's doing really, really, well and I attribute that to me knowing what makes him tick and being able to break things down for him, and prepare him with knowledge and a safe outlet to be himself. It makes a world of a difference when you know what you're up against, and you know how his brain works.

Hang in there. You'll do well by him.

Yes, being different is lonely, but there are some trade-offs - like being smarter than most of your peer group. At least your son has the blessing of parents who can understand what he goes through. My folks, god love 'em, had no clue - and until I was 45, neither did I. Now that there's more public recognition of Autism in general, there are more accommodations made for it as a disabling handicap. If one must live with Autism, there's never been a better time for coping with it - and surely in the future that will only be more true...

Well im not a parent, however i do have AS, Severe Depression, Severe Anxiety, and School Phobia. While it is hard sometimes the only reason im not totally lost is because of my parents, both have jumped through hoops and bent over backwards for me, and because of that my life does have happieness in it. I think the fact you are putting a post up shows that your compassion for your son and family is limitless and that your son will have a great life because of it, just keep on moving foward

I would say that even tho you think he might have some social problems once he is older, YOU should be a cool mom about most of the stuff, and talk as kindly to your kid as you can and be the sweet mom, with advice about anything he is interested in, eventually he will come to you when he is older if he has any social difficulties or any problems, and since you went through it you would have some experience in what would be the best way to deal with any of those problems.

Children do a lot of peculiar things. It's in the job description. This is another way to get parents all worried that their child might be abnormal and to profit from "treating" alleged abnormalities.