I've never had emotional support

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I've only received endowment from parents, but I have never received emotional support. They have never said anything good about me. They always complain about things that I attribute to my weaknesses.

Any of you have the same problem?

yeah, but I never received an endowment from them, either!

Merle

Yep.
That's why I'm here.


Paul Simon --
It's the same old story, everywhere I go,
I get slander, libel, I hear words I never heard in the bible,
And I'm soooo tired. I'm oh, so tired...

your goal is to be at a point when your parents are not sources of emotional support and you do not care if you have their approval. that's when you really grow up, imo.

I have one parent that takes pleasure in making me feel small and in belittling me. I never had anyone to confide in either. Its very difficult, I know. I wish I could tell you of a way I overcame this but I never have.

I've had nowhere to go for emotional support. Even still I don't know if I could get it when I need it. Recently, I've been trying to just ignore my inner feelings and the need for those things to just drown myself in constant fun and digital stimulation. When the time comes that I can get it for whatever personal problems I may have, then I'll take it.

Parents: great at practical support, don't understand emotional/social support.

What's going on?

It's not their faults, it's just they don't seem to understand the concept of emotional support. It's just how they are. Some people are just like this.

Come to think of it, this concept had me pretty baffled too.

Hmm, yes. Mum was always good at supporting me, but BioDad? Not so much. His idea of support involved fists. I'm now disabled, yippie! *sarcasm*

But I digress. What I did was found new versions of Dad. Not people I would call Dad, but people who supported me emotionally and provided good male role models. One was my stepdad, another my best friends dad, and another a guy from work. Between all of them, there's always a good support system.

Tahitiii: Would you informally adopt me too?

Lab Pet didn't get parents. My father died when I turned 12, then alone.

knowledgeiskey: In some ways, since your don't seem very optimal, it is almost as if you are without. And that does hurt, I know.

Not sure if 'orphan pains' ever get better.