Am I alone?

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I stay home if I'm not a school.

I'm 22 years old.

I like reading things on Wikipedia.

I watch cable news programs when I'm home.

I never go out.

My phone only rings when my father or bill collectors call.

My mom tells me that to get a life condescendingly.

I keep up with politics and current events.

I don't work because of my past work history.

People tell me to get a life.

Am I alone?

Do others experience this?

With the exception that I have like two good friends, one who I see once in a blue moon, and the other I see maybe once or twice a week I'm exactly the same. Oh and I don't go to school because I study from home and I'm 23.

So know you're not at all alone.

I'm trying to find something to do with my life that I can start to feel passionate about. I've been trying to write some stuff but I come up with all these convulted, complex ideas and then realise I don't actually have the patience (and possiblt talent) to sit down and write them. So I've been thinking about trying to get involved with political causes I support and starting to do voluntary work. We'll see how that pans out.

I'm not sure if any of those things would work for you or not. But if you are unhappy with how you're life is you need to find something else that interests you, and maybe something that would allow you to meet similar people. But then of course if you like how things are just ignore you're mum and enjoy doing what you're doing. Either way when people tell you to get a life what they mean is get a life they deem suitable, and it's really not their opinion that counts.

Short answer, no. I pretty much sit at home when I'm not at school however, for four years, I didn't even go to school. My family made me feel so bad, I went back although my stress levels are still through the roof, even with my reduced schedule( two classes, two days a week).

I "research" things on the net too, wikipedia is often the starting point for me. My phone only gets family and wrong numbers, but I don't feel too bad about that. It's just my life, when compared with others makes me feel not quite real somehow and everyone expects(more) things from me.

Sorry, I probably didn't help but I do feel I can relate to you.

It's your damn life, if you are satisfied and happy then f**k the rest. You have to give it some thought, do you want "a life" cuz people who can't stay out of your business are telling you to or do you yourself think it's time for a change of scenery. I used to hang out with a lot of people but I grew tired of their ret*d infantile company and today I have about 5 REALLY good friends, one who I live with and have known for 12 years. He's all the friend I need, and sometimes even he is to much so I tell him I need a time out and I chill alone in my room for a couple of hours with my laptop.

Point is, if your happy where you are then don't let anyone change that, but if you feel it should change then seek out new things to do and people to see.

i sit at home when im not at school too
i only answer the phone if it is my dad, mom, my sister calling from her friends or a few of her friends calling for her and my only friend.
i sit on the computer alot.
and i dont have a job well i dont want one cuz i go to school so i dont need to yet.
so i get it.

I'll put it like this. All this easter I had the house to myself, I did absolutely nothing but stay at the computer and smoke cigarrettes. I could've have invited a girl, but of course I didn't.

Sounds awfully familiar to my patterns. Nobody really tells me to "get a life" though...

Not even sure what 'going out' is anymore. To go shopping? To a bar? To a restaurant?

I have a job. Not the greatest one in the world, but there are worse. At times I get motivated to search for a better job (I have a college degree), but the worsening economy and living in the worst state in the US eventually discourages me.

Apart from going from work to home and back again, I don't get out much either. I make an effort to 'get out' sometimes, although most of these attempts are done solo, and going out by yourself is usually not much fun. Which brings me back to sitting at home, researching on the internet, watching TV, and listening to music.

I'm not sure anyone is 'satisfied and happy' with living the life of a shut-in. It may be comforting, but everyone wants to live life and experience new things... not rotting alone between four walls.

Just wondering what to do to give my life meaning. Do I need more friends? Better friends? I don't even know where to start, and have no energy to invest into making major changes.

Bars are no good, but a group with an interest you share can be fun.

Looks like you are definitely not alone. I was the same when at school or college. My aspie nephew and neice are close to your age and are the same.

Only difference with me is we didn't have computers, so I used to read hardcopy encyclopedias, technical manuals and comics.

Later in life I got involved in some interest groups ... aquarium society, chess club, orchid club ... like minded people who got together to exchange information about shared interests. Still can't get enthusiastic about clubs and bars ... just don't see the point ... totally artificial to me.

You don't need to get a life, you have one. If it's different to that of others, tough for them. You will do other things when they are right for you. Just be yourself.