life sucks right now =(

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the title really explains it right now.
well im 18 if those who dont know i am and i have to take responsibility and i refuse.
i cant cook, drive, i forget to throw away empty cans in the trash, when the toliet is clogged i dont both to flush it and im really afraid of the future.
i get yelled at by my NT sister and my dad well he sticks up for me most of the time but he knows i need to learn sooner or later.
i just hate being like this i wish i was NORMAL!! !! !
and those who dont know i wasnt diagnosed with aspergers.
and im reading this book called look me in the eye and my sister read it and she thinks im worse than him!! !
so what does that mean am i autistic???
i act normal at school i just cant take care of myself.
and im not lying about the cooking they think im lazy i really cant cook eggs its too much steps to remember i might forget to add something or ill make it wrong.
im just wondering is your homelife similiar to mine????
and not able to take care of yourself or afraid to grow up is an aspie thing????

i posted this for a reason so all you can talk to me so if you wont then fine be like that

Life skills - taking out trash and unclogging the toilet - you can learn them. I bet you have computer addiction and procrastination like all of us and just avoiding doing chores.

Sisters and parents are usually verbally and emotionally abusive - it's the norm. Conflicts arise when people live together. It's fine.

A diagnosis would shift the self blame from you. Don't worry about it too much though.

Worried about future? You are only 18!! !! !! !! !! !! of course you are. I was too and so was everyone else.

Try and cook - it's all trial and error. Boil some rice and put some bacon on the skillet. Make some instant coffee. You'll learn if you practice.

It seems that you feel like you don't have control over your life.

So, what exactly makes you feel not normal?

I can realte to you. Cooking really isn't hard though, well unless you mean master chef kinda stuff. Really, you should ask a family member to show you how to cook.
If you really have trouble could you take cooking lessons?
My real problem isn't so much about cooking food, but whether I actually care enough to make myself something.

Anyways, I'm sure you're capable of these things. You may even surprise yourself with how much you capaable of

I'm the same way, except no one sticks up for me and for a certain time, I was also physically abused by my brother along with his psychological abuse of me and my sister would just chew me out ever so often.

Driving - Dont worry about it a lot of Aspies dont get their licence until they are older (I was 28) and have had mine eight months. Aspies often arent really socially or emotionally at 18-19 or younger if the driving age is younger in your state/country. In my country we have P plates for all new drivers so even at my age I have to display them embarrasing!! but hey I can drive on my own whereever I want.

Cooking - I am not a great cook we can all deal with it by getting frozen meals, cooking basic things, getting takeaway (Subway is relatively healthy) etc.

Verbal Abuse is very common for aspies I am not saying it is right but NTs dont know how to handle it and deal with us this way through frustration.

Yes..... that describes my life pretty well. I am getting better about remmbering to do those things. I know how to cook chicken and eggs now, as well as a steak in the oven. I try to make lists so I remember everything I need to do. But i get accused of not doing stuff like that all the time. I do it most of the time but forgetting once in a while seems to make people a lot more angry than id worth it seems. the tension with my parents is incredible. i try, but i forget sometimes.