I hate my class...

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Okay, as some of you may know, I've been going to a dental assistant class for over a month now. My last class is the first Saturday of June. Anyway, I've definitely have had my share of ups and downs with it and right now, I'm at an all-time low.

Here's the details. There's seven of us girls in class with a huge age difference (four are my age and two are older than my parents). The ages aren't a problem, it's just the maturity of the people. Daniel, who's my age, hasn't liked me from the start. Honestly, I think it's a jealousy issue. The exact same thing happened at my college, only that girl actually admitted it. But Daniel has just been being a total b**** towards me, but in silent ways. Half the time I say anything to her, she totally blows me off and she doesn't stop staring at me. Ever. And last week, she and Jill (one of the two older ones) were talking about me behind my back right in front of me saying I was an attention hog. That really ruined it for me. I am so sick of people treating me like that right in front of me! It was like my horrible sophomore year of high school all over again!

Mind you, all these people come from small towns, also just like that sophomore year. That includes the teacher, who actually hates me and expects me to fail because I have the worst grades in class. I don't even like doing any of this. My mom manipulated me into it and I can't pull out because it's her money and it was expensive. And if I ever mention it, she yells at me until I cry. But anyway, last week when everything happened, I told the teacher, who got mad at me for some reason. She then talked to everyone else and apparently they lied to her about it and she automatically took their side and started yelling at me, and eventually kicked me out for the day.

Now I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing, but I really, really hate going there now. I have to go every Saturday from eight to five, which is waaaay too long for my attention span to even handle. All we do in the mornings is sit down in these really hard chairs, take long tests the very first thing with no time to study, take pages and pages of notes, and listen to the teacher just talk and talk with her terrible accent. In the afternoons, we just stand around the entire time watching the teacher do demonstrations and do the same thing over and over for five hours. I really, really hate repetition, I hate standing around, I hate sitting down on hard chairs, and I hate going there so early in the morning! I even fell asleep during one of the classes!

But that's all beside the point. The point is, me, the teacher, and some of the students really aren't getting along. There are students in there that are very nice, but they don't seem to notice or care about what's going on. You're probably going to tell me don't even talk to them, but I am an extremely social person. I hate leaving people out and I hate being left out. As for Daniel and those looks she's been giving me, she's looked at me like that since open house, and that was before class even started! She's a lot bigger than me (being the thinnest and prettiest person in class (not trying to sound vain, but it's true)), and no one else looks like me at all and she doesn't look at them like that. Hmm...

But anyway, please help. I am extremely stressed out from all this. I really don't want to go tomorrow, but I have no choice but to. I already bawled like a baby earlier thinking about what could happen. I can't just sit through it. That's not my personality. Like I said, I'm very social.

It is called work, you will suffer through this, then get a good job in a happy office where everyone loves you, they will spend the rest of their days working for an office of four cheap dentists who will overwork them and yell at them.

You have to live with, "The Curse of the Cute One."

You do not have to lean over to work on someone, you do not take up much space, and never wear out a pair of shoes.

You will be cute as a bug's ear when forty, never have to diet, then have it not work.

You are bright and cheerful, enjoy life, and like people. They are none of those things.

When you all finish the class you can get a job, they might.

Older people in a class with youngsters, lets say their life has not turned out well. They have spend years in a dead end job, flipping burgers, waiting tables, and they wish they could have what you do.

Hang in there, finish what you start, and they will not be around when you are working in the best office in town. Think of the end goal, never seeing them again.

You do not want to do this over, or deal with your mother, so shut up, finish up, and move on.

There is no defense for happy, friendly, cute, and fun to be with, and if you start selling motorcycle parts I will think it unfair.

So stay out of motorcycle parts if you know what's good for you.

You are here with the socially clueless, you fit in, life is different for most people, and in work, you can beat them all.

You are what is called Front Office in the trade, a Show Girl, and Blue Ribbon.

Trying to be friends is just rubbing it in. Act hurt, be quite, it will make them happy, in their shallow little lives for a few days. They will go on to work for the State at a prison, and you will work upscale with a view, and clients who are not chained to the chair and bite.

Just remember, no bike parts!

When I do get the job, I just want to be able to retire as soon as possible (I'm looking at my 30's). My bf is dying to become a psychiatrist and he has his heart set on it. Plus we're both moving out of this awful state anyway and starting our new lives in Florida when the time comes.

The only nice people to me in there are Chelsea, Cathy, and Kylie. And like I said, Jill and Daniel are the ones causing the problems for me. There's one more lady in her 30's, Kristen, but she's alright. She's neither good nor bad towards me. Thank God the other nice people sit in my row. And like I said, my teacher, Tammy, also doesn't like me. She doens't expect me to succeed. It's almost like a national holiday in that class when I get a passing grade on my test. That's another thing: I'm always either the best or the worst one in class, depending on the subject. There's no grey area. This is a prime example. However, I am one of the best when it comes to doing the actual dental stuff, like trimming impression molds and taking x-rays. Unfortunately, when my emotions get the best of me, I'm absolutely horrible at those things I learned last week.

*sigh* Hopefully this week will be better... I'm dreading the teacher more than anything really... I can only imagine what she talked about with the students after I was forced to leave.

Just go there and get the degree or PhD or whatever you need, and then you can stop going there...right?

Yeah, but in the meantime, it totally sucks. I absolutely hate how everything there is set up. I have to go every Saturday from eight to five. The days are way too long and I hate getting up that early and driving that early. I usually don't even wake up until 10:30 AM... And it can only be on Saturdays because the dentists are there with the patients during the weekdays. So all my Saturday events are ruined because of it. But like I was saying at the beginning, that's the least of my problems... I do get the Saturday before Memorial Day off, though, so I'm happy about that. But that whole weekend will be bad because the Indy 500 is in town and that means tourists galore! The traffic is worse than Christmas shopping!

Maybe you're right about all of "them." If so, to what extent (a) does being "right" help you whatsoever, and/or (b) do you REALLY think that the next 50 years of your life will not include such people/situations/etc?

All you can do is change YOUR attitude towards them. Unfair, difficult, exhausting, frustrating, etc....yep...but also way less so than thinking/hoping/trying to change THEM even one iota. And much more productive than trying to change them, too.

And...don't take this the wrong way....but GET USED TO IT.

I, too, used to think/hope that things would be different "out in the real world," once I started "working," etc. Nope. Never happened, never will happen. Same problems and problematic people everywhere you and I go in life, period, guaranteed, "you'll see," and all of that jazz. Sorry but absolutely true.

Then I realized that part of the reason--aside from the fact that people are "just people" wherever you go--is/was MY reactions, perceptions, etc. Quite aside from the fact that you do sound just a tad self-centered/narcisstic--go see a therapist: ten bucks says s/he tells you the same thing--AS I WAS and STILL AM to a certain unavoidable extent, there's the fact that you and I can NEVER change other people, but we CAN change ourselves and how we interact with them, respond to them, respond to the world in which we live/move.

What I'm saying probably sounds mean and harsh...and that is NOT the spirit in which I offer it. I'm telling you from years of experience that as "right" and indignant as you feel has little/nothing to do with actually being right and/or actually being acknowledged as right.

Stop trying to be right--ie justify who you are, your value as a person, etc--and stop trying to get people to acknowledge that you are right--ie stop being jealous, etc--and concentrate on developing self esteem based not on the actions/words/behaviors of other people but instead on how you measure up to your own ideals/goals, and you will be instantly freed.

I'm sure that you are a good, strong, beautiful, wonderful person--don't let other people get in the way of who you are. From what you seem to be saying, though, you are indeed letting them because you are agreeing to believe that they are in control.

Good luck...and remember to be kind to yourself !

I'm just getting really tired of people like them treating me that way. As if I haven't had to deal with it enough already... It's all these small-town cliques of people doing this to me. I've never had a problem like this from anyone else living in the city. And if they did, it was the bad parts of town.

Yes, I will admit I am narciscistic to a degree. Been that way my whole life, even as a pre-schooler. I will also admit that I have gotten better about it. You'll see I'm almost a completely different person now than I would've been in twelfth grade. Although, honestly, sometimes I wish I were that way, still, because I was on top of everyone at the time. I'm not anymore, sadly...

I know it's not going to be any different in "the real world". There's cliques at my mom's work and that's a professional setting. I mean, she's a CPA. What in the world do accountants of all people have to gossip about??

Like I said in the first post, I'm hoping to retire very early if my bf's job goes well. And it should.

I would like to know Danielle's (or is it really Daniel?) reasoning for calling you an attention hog. Do you ask alot of questions in class? Do you speak loudly or strangely? Do you dress 'differently?'

Not that these things are bad or anything, but petty people like Daniel might just hate you for having any difference at all.

(Edit: Wow! Wrongplanet let my say the B-word! But I edited it out by myself, just in case. )

lol It probably is Danielle. That's a my bad on the spelling Anyway, I don't speak anymore than anyone else and we all have to wear scrubs so it's not fashion or anything (plus I'm usually the best dressed anywhere I go anyway). And my voice is completely normal. She's just had it out for me since she first laid eyes on me. Like I said, she's not the first person to do this... I've gotten some really nasty glares from people for absolutely no reason at all. I'm just standing there talking to friends or minding my own business and they're giving me the look of death. It's not me at all, it's them... I'm always extremely aware of any tiny little thing I do because these types of people have gotten me so paranoid.

As for the b-word, meh, I just didn't want to swear.

I know exactly what you mean, though. I've experienced people like that. They hate me with a passion! For reasons unbeknownst to me. And of course, they won't tell you the reasons either, right?

I would not ignore her. In fact, be friendly to her. Wave and say hi to her when class starts. Invite her to lunch. If she, of course, refuses, just say 'okay' and move on. Make it obvious that her seething hate doesn't bother you in the least. (Even though it really does.)

It drives them CRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAZY!

Yep, you know what I'm talking about. I know one good example is when I was at Kings Island a couple of years ago and I was about to go down the waterslide with a friend. Anyway, this girl over by the other waterslide just kept glaring me down. I didn't know who she was. Heck, I didn't even live in that state so there's no way she could've even known me! Some people are just jerks I guess...

Oh, believe me, I've tried! She just blows off half the stuff I say to her (she does that rolls eyes/scuffs/walks away thing to me). I've actually not even said one rude thing to her. Ignoring is the only other thing I can think of since that first plan has been failing for weeks on end now...

Well...for what it's worth...I'm not pretending that I've escaped people who match the descriptions that you've offered, and I'm certainly not about to claim that I currently exist in some candy-sprinkles-and-ice-cream-rainbows world nowadays...because it sure seems a lot of days like the F*cking Idiot Bus just emptied out at my front door, so to speak. So...you just have to do your best to never give up on the possibility that there are things that you can do for yourself to make your own life easier...AND...allow yourself to just look at people sometimes and ask yourself and them, "What the HELL is your problem?!" Good luck!

Thanks for understanding, KarmicPyxis.

I'm beginning to feel better about the situation. However, now I'm not even sure if I can go to class today. I woke up after just two hours of sleep in pain and I nearly threw up twice. And now I'm really hot. I don't know if it's nerves or I'm just not feeling good. I haven't been sick in two and a half years and I'm actually a very clean person, so I don't know. If I do go to class, I think I'll be more miserable about not feeling well rather than worrying about everyone else now. But if I don't go to class, I'll have a lot of make-up work next week I'll have to do. I'll have to see how I feel later on in the morning. I also only got two hours of sleep so I'm going to be dead-tired all day now and it's already too late to go back to sleep since I'd have to wake up in less than an hour...

Well, I ended up being too sick today to go to class. I had actually gotten completely ready and everything, but I was still too sick from last night and I was getting really dizzy. I don't know if this was meant to be or what, but I'm not complaining too much about it. Unfortunately, I haven't been sick in two and a half years now and this just ruined my streak...