Does everyone want rid of you?

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Friends, bosses, family/relatives, etc.?

Everyone wants rid of me, and I have no idea why. Am I alone in this?

Most everyone is repulsed by me but some aren't.

People who check the "Yes" or the "Yes and I don't know why" options, I'd love to hear from you either on this thread or by PM. Because right now I'm convinced I'm the only person in the world who this happens to.

More like quietly sidelined and ignored....active "getting rid" would mean people would have to make an effort to interact...

Mostly by my mother, i can't even put a number on how many times she said that she wants to send me away... (this is the clean version) I hate the memory's (and i know why, i'm crazy and she's a bad parent, still hurts me to say she is)

(((((((Greentea))))))))))))) I think you need to find like-minded people. That is the problem with having a rare personality type, it can be hard to find friends.

As to whether people want to get rid of me. Yes people have at times. I guess they just didnt understand.

I certainly feel overwhelmingly disliked by the world at large and find that most people (especially those in a position of power over me) take against me and seek to cause harm to me.

I recently listend to a you tube video where the man talked about it being bad to rely on people liking you to feel good about yourself and not to rely on people hating you to feel bad about yourself but to make your own mind up about how you feel and take that as the judgement you trust.

I found that very helpful.

If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. John 15:19

It has always seemed to me like people don't so much as want to get rid of me as they want to change me. Then, when they realize that they can't mold me into the type of person that they want me to be, they cast me off. It is really not a problem, since I never want to be a "part" of anything anyway. I don't like to identify with anything or consider myself part of a group. So if someone wants me to go, I just say "whatever" and I walk out the door.

Greentea,
Sometimes it seems that way, yes. A few days ago I went up to this information guy to ask for some, uh, information.....and he acts like he can't be bothered. But he's nice to the other people with their questions. So it wasn't like he was being unpleasant with everyone.

Some do, but i can not care less about them. And talking to the family is mostly irrelevant, i have no need to talk to any of them, except for my parents. Friends are valued highly. A girlfriend would be nice.

Most other people on the planet = unintresting. I rather spend time with computers...

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Yeah, my neighbors would probably like to see me go. I complain about their stupid noise, and I have AS. They just don't get it.

I have had roommates who were glad to see me go, and I was glad to go. I wonder if other people are glad to see me go, but of course they won't say so! I have family and a few other people who will stick with me, though.

Some days my wife is ready to be rid of me... other days I wish I could get rid of me. I think these are common in people with AS. I know my neighbors would like to be rid of me, but to hell with them. I've been there longer than everyone around me, and as long as I don't lose my house, I'm not planning to move anywhere. My next door neighbor on the west side is a real ass because he thinks I'm an ass. I simply do not associate with him because he and his friends are intimidating to me. I'm nothing like them, therefore I am intimidated in their presence. To hell with them. But if he keeps taunting my dogs (I have a Pitbull and a Doberman) I am going to have to break a brick over his head. There is a couple with young children across the street from us who also think I'm a jerk because I don't speak to them. People are so afraid of what they do not understand, and those of us who they do not understand get treated like crap for it. But I am a nice guy ... as much as I want to give them the finger for so rudely snubbing me, I choose to not do so. They used to try to talk to me before they realized I wasn't a talkative person. It's nothing I can help, people intimidate me and I choose to no socialize because I feel that I will be ridiculed or stand out like a sore thumb for my lack of social skills. The guy who used to live next door to me was extremely nice, and even though he could tell I don't have good social skills, he would stand outside and talk to me when I was watering my lawn. Now I don't even work in the yard at all because I am afraid of getting caught having to talk to my next door neighbor and I am simply paranoid of it.

I have felt like that most of my life actually. When I was little not even the kids in my special- ed class wanted anything to do with me. My family didn't either...I was special, developmentally delayed, stupid, and a just and expensive burden to them.....

When I was a bit older and hit puberty, and grew breasts the only people that wanted anything o do with me were boys....and the girls all ostracized me and made fun of me. As a teenager I hung out with drug addicts and junkies.....they were too stoned or high to realize they didn't want anything to do with me and I was actually okay with that....

When I got older and entered the workforce I soon found out that no one wanted anything to do with me. I was hated by my coworkers and I don't know why. I never did anything to them. I tried to engage in small talk....though I opted to keep my mouth shut if I had something to say most of the time....because I knew from experience I often offend people without meaning to. Maybe they saw me as aloof, or stuck up....I tried to be polite, I said "good morning" and "good night" and stuff.....maybe it was because I was a very young college graduate and I was viewed as a child still....and annoying little child....

Even now, I'm not that young anymore, but still the youngest in my group....and I am still the least important chemist in my group. Every one's projects are more important than my own....every one's voice is louder than mine. I feel like I can't even approach my boss to have her evaluate the status of one of my projects, and when I manage to I am ignored....I feel like an annoyance to her and all of my coworkers....and to everyone around me....I'm sure my coworkers would be happy to see me go....

Even in a store waiting to be helped by a sales person....I'm often completely ignored, and the next customer is taken care of....it's like I'm invisible.....it's like "if we ignore her...maybe she'll go away"

Even my fiance seems to feel this way.... I'll show up at his house and I'm greeted with..."oh...you again....why don't you just go home...I'm not in the mood for you."

So yeah....it's sort of the story of my life.....I think if I died...no one would even notice....