I've been given a heartbreaking ultimatum... (another rant)

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Looks like my parents are giving me a job ultimatum

Either get a job by September or else I have to go back to school and they choose the school...which means they're gonna push me into some MedTech Radiology or Nursing program I have NO interest in.

I asked if Grad School could be an option since I already have a bachelor's degree in Creative Writing and my dad flat out said no. (He's a penny-pinch freak in case you're wondering).

How heartbreaking is that that my own dad won't even let me do something with my life as big or as grand as something like Graduate School?

My parents...my dad especially seems to have a flip-flop complex. Don't you hate it when your parents keep encouraging you as kids to "be anything you want to be" and "the sky's the limit"...and then they flip flop everything they have taught you when you become a struggling adult and say "you can't always get what you want in life" or "you're always gonna do things you don't want to do"?

Way to f**k up raising me. I keep telling them that their main mistake was to let me do whatever I wanted to in college. If they were THAT worried about me finding a job, they should've forced a major on me. Now they want me to go back to school and waste the degree I got?!

I hope they don't expect me to become an IT. I hear that ITs are getting laid off by the thousands as we speak.

There's no helping the fact that someone like me with poor social skills and people phobia shouldn't be doing the kinds of stuff they want to push on me anyways.

I actually tried a day at ITT Tech cause for one day I was interested in maybe a Web Design program...then it hit me like a bag of bricks as I shadowed a class. What the f**k was I doing?! I have a Bachelor's Degree from a distinguished university and I'm going to a ghetto rip-off community college when there's no guarantee for a job? Thank god I came to my senses and dropped out ASAP. Trust me, a person with AS deserves a full-university experience. I dunno how anyone can cope in a community college like someone in a box surrounded by people who are poor as hell. I was close to having a meltdown after one freaking class.

Yeah I know it's a stupid dream but I want to be an aspiring TV writer. I have undiagnosed ADHD so it's difficult for me to sit down and write. However there's this fellowship program where you can write and submit a pilot episode script. I want to give this a shot. I have to have a script AND have either a writing agent or authenticity from someone with experiecing in media writing field by the end of June.

I wish I was able to find a job now but my people skills have fallen by the wayside. Plus I've been fired by my two recent jobs for recklessness so I dont think those things are gonna help me get a standard job anytime soon. And of course no employment programs for autistic people in the effing state of Indiana (not any that I've found anyway) though my parents would think that me using such programs is a bunch of B.S. regardless of the fact that I know my emotional/mental state is deterioirating. They'll be even more pissed if I tell them I want to go back to counseling again. Bleh

You're 25 years old and not a kid anymore...when are you going to grow up???

Hey, go easy. Some of us have a harder time than others at dealing with the world, especially when we have people that don't want to understand what we're going through.

Yeah the "grow up" comment wasn't so appropriate on a forum such as this, towards someone who has questions they're obviously struggling with.

raisedbyignorance: Do you still live with your parents and are they paying your fees for college? Not that that should matter, as remember you are at an age where you are independent of their will.

Your parents sound somewhat like mine, forcing you into certain courses of study or certain other courses in life. Because mine forced me into certain courses and disallowed me from others which were more geared to my interests, when I went to university, this has had repercussions in my life. So I hope that this situation abates for you and doesn't continue much further into your adult life. You should be allowed to follow the path you want simply because you are independent, or should be at your age, and because being forced into stuff against your will only ever causes distress and repercussions.

I still live with my parents mostly due to job/independence difficulties. I've already gone to college and gotten my bachelor's. My parents paid for the whole thing. Unlike most families, our refuses to do student loans and the like. They wouldn't let me get a job when I was in high school because they didn't want work to interfere with studies (not that it would've helped anyway since I never got to really drive a car independently till like last year really).

But like I said my dad is a serious penny-pincher which is why he is not gonna let me do something that we can't afford (like grad school) even when there's major oppurtunity to be had. My grades in college will average so I probably wouldn't have qualified for graduate school anyway.

I kinda screwed myself over anyway. There was no one around to tell me how exactly I was supposed to progress from getting my bachelor's degree to going into the real world and how exactly I was to approached getting my first job (seeing I never had a real job beforehand).

I found this

http://www.iidc.indiana.edu/irca/, and the last thing under "services" it says training, although I don't know what kind of training. there were other things that looked interesting, too.

This, too

http://www.iidc.indiana.edu/index.php?pageId=18
It has some stuff related to vocational. It is a page on the site

http://www.iidc.indiana.edu/cedir/aspergersbib.html

Here is a list of resource sites from a university in Illinois

http://www.bsu.edu/dsd/resources/

That's all I feel like looking at, it was all I found on the first 6 pages of searching on aspergers + Indiana on msn's Live search. I hope some of them help you work on your career goals

Again, your experience mirrors mine pretty closely. This is a difficult situation that, with the amount of information present, I don't have a huge amount that I feel comfortable actually "advising" on, but I will say:

A.) Don't think that you can't get into grad school with average grades. I got in this year and it was the first year I applied, and my grades were pretty much exactly the average for undergrads at my university. (I also only got into 1 program out of 6 that I applied to, so it's not a "given" but it's certainly possible)

B.) You ARE 25 years old, which means if you want to use student loans, your parents can't exactly stop you. They can advise you against it (which is exactly what my parents are doing), but if you want to go to school and there is no reasonable alternative for you, just do it.


The flip side of all this is that for the type of school you seem to be aspiring to attend, you probably wouldn't be applying for admission until next fall, so maybe try to find a bullsh*t job that requires little interaction with people, and start planning and applying for next fall. If you're lucky, you'll find a job with lots of down-time to work on your writing, and maybe it will have benefits, which would allow you to begin counseling again.

I wish you were in this area because my job, which I am leaving in 5 weeks, would be perfect for you by those criteria