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I don't know what happened, but I don't feel loved, or even understood by my own family?!? They say they care and try hard, but I don't feel loved anymore, hell the only people I trust now are on wrong planet! My doctors screwed me over and threw me into an institute, saying I was suicidal when I wasn't and never have been so im ready to just rip there head off because let me tell you an institutute sucks, it's scary, I still have nightmares about it Now I look to the world with wide open eyes and see only wrong planet coming even close to relating to me and actually caring about me; I don't know what changed except that I don't feeel loved by my family anymore? Can someone please help, I have tried face to face, notes, family therapy, and alot of other things to fix this problem, but nothing working. The only good thing is I'm very smart and know alot of life helping skills I fought myself like fix g the car, programming computers, read maps/GPS/Compass; so if something horrid happened I wouldn't be totally at a loss. However as dependent as I want to be I still need someone to fall back on for hard times and help, but I look around and I have, but only wrongplanet, and take no offense pls it's great, that's why I come to talk here, but I have to have another external source of releif?!?!?? Pls help?

Do you actually speak to your parents about your feelings? If not then ofcourse they will find it difficult to understand you.

Are you over 18? Do you have anyone you can trust?

My husband tried to pull something like that on me last summer. He didn’t get away with it, but it really freaked me out. That was the last straw that destroyed my 20-year marriage.

A few days later, I found the following document from somewhere on the internet. (Now I’ve forgotten where I found it.) I named my sister-in-law first, then my sister, then my brother.

I cut a few things out. In the version I saved on the computer, I put the stuff I didn’t like in “hidden text” (deleted). In this version, I’m “unhiding” (reconstituting) that stuff and putting it in italics.

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Declaration of Mental Health Care Representative


I, (my name), being a legal adult of sound mind, voluntarily make this declaration for mental health treatment. I want this declaration to be followed if I am incapable, as defined in New Jersey Statutes 26:2H-108. I designate (first agent) as my agent for all matters relating to my mental health care including, without limitation, full power to give or refuse consent to all medical care related to my mental health condition. If my agent is unable or unwilling to serve or continue to serve, I appoint (second agent) as my agent. If both are unable or unwilling to serve or continue to serve, I appoint (third agent) as my agent. I want my agent to make decisions for my mental health care treatment that are consistent with my wishes as expressed in this document or, if not specifically expressed, as are otherwise known to my agent.

If my wishes are unknown to my agent, I want my agent to make decisions regarding my mental health care that are consistent with what my agent in good faith believes to be in my best interests. My agent is also authorized to receive information regarding proposed mental health treatment and to receive, review and consent to disclosure of any medical records relating to that treatment.

I specifically authorize my representative to receive information about my treatment for HIV/AIDS and alcohol and substance abuse diagnosis and treatment if applicable and relevant._____(initial)

This declaration allows me to state my wishes regarding mental health care treatment including medications, admission to and retention in a health care facility for mental health treatment and outpatient services.

(initial one of the following)
_____ This designation of a mental health care representative is irrevocable if I have been found under the standards in New Jersey Statutes Annotated 26:2H-108 to lack capacity to directly consent to my care.
_____ I can revoke this designation of a mental health care representative at all times.

Expiration
This advance directive for mental health care is made pursuant to P.L 2005, ch 233 of the New Jersey laws and continues in effect for all who may rely on it except to those I have given notice of its revocation pursuant to NJSA 26:2H-106 d. (1). If I do not revoke the directive, it will expire on __________. (leave blank if you do not want it to expire)

Signatures
I have voluntarily completed this advance directive for mental health care. (signature of declarant and date)

________________________________ _____________, 20___

Address of mental health care representative: ____________________
Telephone number of mental health care representative ______________
Address(es) of alternate mental health care representative(s) ________________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________________________________________
Telephone number(s) of alternate mental health care representative(s)

Affirmation of first witness (required):

I affirm that the person signing this mental health care advance directive:
1. Is personally known to me.
2. Signed or acknowledged by his or her signature on this declaration in my presence.
3. Appears to be of sound mind and not under duress, fraud or undue influence.
4. Is not related to me by blood, marriage or adoption.
5. Is not a person for whom I directly provide care as a professional.
6. Has not appointed me as an agent to make medical decisions on his or her behalf.
Witnessed by:

________________________________ _____________, 20___
(signature and date)

Affirmation of second witness: (two witnesses are required if the first witness is related to the declarant, entitled to any part of the declarant’s estate, or the operator, administrator or employee of a rooming or boarding house or a residential health care facility in which the declarant resides)

I affirm that the person signing this mental health care advance directive:
1. Is personally known to me.
2. Signed or acknowledged by his or her signature on this declaration in my presence.
3. Appears to be of sound mind and not under duress, fraud or undue influence.
4. Is not related to me by blood, marriage or adoption.
5. Is not a person for whom I directly provide care as a professional.
6. Has not appointed me as an agent to make medical decisions on his or her behalf.
Witnessed by:

________________________________ _____________, 20___
(signature and date)

Acceptance of appointment as agent: (optional)

I accept this appointment and agree to serve as agent to make mental health treatment decisions for the principal. I understand that I must act consistently with the wishes of the person I represent, as expressed in this mental health care power of attorney, or if not expressed, as otherwise known by me. If I do not know the principal’s wishes, I have a duty to act in what I in good faith believe to be that person’s best interests. I understand that this document gives me the authority to make decisions about mental health treatment only while that person has been determined to be incapable as that term is defined in NJSA 26:2H-109.

______________________________ primary mental health care representative
Name, address, phone, e-mail

______________________ first alternate mental health care representative
Name, address, phone, e-mail

____________________ second alternate mental health care representative
Name, address, phone, e-mail


Power of Attorney:
http://www.state.nj.us/humanservices/dm ... _forms.pdf

Mental Health America, Resource Center, Position Statement 22: Involuntary Mental Health Treatment
http://www.nmha.org/go/position-statements/p-36

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Revocation
Complete this section if you wish to revoke this directive completely. You may also revoke or modify the directive by executing a new document. If you do so, you should tell your mental health care representative and replace the old documents in anyone’s possession with your new directive. If you revoke this directive, it will no longer have any legal effect on your treatment.
_______I revoke the mental health advance directive I executed on or about____________, 20__ in its entirety.
________________________________ ______________ (signature) (date)


Registration:
I hereby submit my mental health advance directive to the Division of Mental Health Services in the New Jersey Department of Human Services to be registered. I choose the following password that will permit access for me and anyone with whom I share it.
_________________ (if left blank one will be assigned and provided to you.)
I further understand that a licensed health care provider who is providing me with mental health care may be able to access my directive if needed. No other person will be permitted to see the directive (except as required for administration of the registry) without my permission.
_________________________ Signature // Print name:_________________________,

Please provide contact information for confirmation: (email, snail or phone) ___________________________________________

Witness: _____________ (sign) _____________ (print name) Dated: ________

yes i have expressed this issue to them, and nothing really happned, and i'm only 15 yrs

Oops. Now I remember.
I stink with names, and you changed the avatar.
I'm easily confused.

Like with so many people around here, I wish I could do something about your situation. Well, at least you have a place to rant.

If you can't get away for part of the summer, maybe this will help:
Google "stress reduction kit," hit "images," then print.

I felt that way about my parents for a long time too. It just seemed to come on overnight and I never figured out what happened. At one time, they just accepted me as I was, quirks and all, but then no longer. They wanted me to be more like my older sister, whom I despised because of the way she treated me like a second class citizen.

The only hope I had was one day it would blow up in their faces and they'd see her for what she really was and then my parents would return to being the way they were before. It did blow up in their faces, but they never were like they once were towards me, they still looked down on me.

They later turned their backs on me because I wanted to be married, and that hurt as well. I'd like a normal family, but that just won't happen. Best to just move and and try to make what I can of life.