feeling if I should die

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I sometime feel taking my situation of loneliness as a challenge but some times feel very depressive and think better I should die over my loneliness I am 35 years old married but still lacking men friends and friendly relatives ,I also do not have any earning and no one is there to help me to start any business .

Yes. I can feel like this too. I struggle to ever really feel connection with people.
good luck on your life journey.

The thing NT's say is "Tough times don't last, but tough people do." Unfortunately for us this is not the case, we will always deal with issues of being different, anxious, and uncomforrtable. The best thing to do is just to accept it.

I wouldn't worry too much about male vs. female friends, to be honest. Many of the men I know (I'm thinking mostly co-workers here) are more into team sports than me, and so it's hard to relate about weekend plans. Theirs may include golfing or watching a football game. Mine may include traveling to a contra dance weekend or going to a Sheep and Wool festival. We obviously frequent different circles in our spare time.

My only advice in meeting people is to find a hobby that you like to do that you can do semi-socially. What I mean by that is that you can share your interest first, and then gradually get to know the people past the interest. That is, you rally around your interest rather than your own personalities and take the socializing aspect at your own pace. I've found it to be a very useful transition plan. Your mileage, of course, may vary.

I hope you don't die.

Life is hard and I also have difficulty in making friends....and don't get me started on jobs, ugh.

Not sure what to tell you, I'm sort of in the same boat. But I'm trying to look at the simple in things in life like my pets. I know that sounds stupid but they do make great companions. It's ashame there aren't more support groups in many places for those who are on the autistic spectrum...except this online forum.

Anyway, try and look up to things and again, don't kill yourself over it. I'm not religious but I do think that saying "This too shall pass." is very true in life. I've experienced both the great ups and the great downs.

i know exactly how you feel in regards to friends. some people are able live fairly happy lives without many friends, but for some people being with friends is the only thing that really gives life meaning. that sense of belonging that i once felt with my friends is the only thing i really want, and i fear i will never get it back. sorry i dont have any advice, all i can tell you is that i know how bad it hurts, and im sorry you have to go through it.