I need to be treated like an adult

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I am 19 years old, I'm getting to the point of a more adult like person. Why can't my parents treat me as such? Yes I am still living at home, but that doesn't mean they need to treat me like I'm 12(Or younger depending on the day) I don't need cues on everything god damn thing I have to do around the house, or just in general. I don't need them asking every little thing I do or go. Do their parents ask them that?


It's like they think they have this birthright to treat me like I'm not CAPABLE of anything generally known as "normal" just because I am "Sick" (As that's what they like to think of me as) I try and try without any success to push them away, and give me some actual space like a true human being, so I can go off on my own, and start being my own individual person. They just don't seem to understand that not everyone needs to be EXACTLY how their parents were. I am not them, I do not wish to be like them. I wish to be my own person, and do my own things. I have my own goals and aspirations. I do not live for them. Let me make my own decisions, and accomplish what I wish to accomplish. It's just so INFURIATING that I have to go through this crap every day just because of the mere fact that they believe I'm not capable, or that I'm "disabled" The fact that I want them to back off, and give me my own breathing air is the resaon why we get into so many devastating arguments, verbal fights, and why I have many breakdowns. I can't stand it anymore. I'm getting sick and tired of it. I think if it doesn't end soon, I will just have to try and achieve what I've always wanted to do: Travel the world, and see everything as a vagabond, I'll just be starting way earlier than expected.


Aspergers isn't a disability, it's a natural GIFT!

I think it's a parent thing. Even though I left home at 18 and have taken care of myself ever since, this happened:
My dad gave me a lecture about how "I need to think about what I want to be when I grow up." I was 27 at the time.
A few years later, they finally gave up and just accepted me.

My parents did that too. Drove me nuts. I eventually stopped telling them the things I was doing, and telling them very plainly their repeated inputs weren't welcome. That eventually greatly reduced it, although my mother continues it.

My mother still tries to parent me over the phone sometimes. I gets really annoying when she does that like telling me how to live my life.

I know it's a parent thing, but they are humans, they need to adapt and accept that I will not make use of, and sometimes do not want their input 100 percent of the time.


By the way, benny and joon is one of the most amazing movies EVER. (At above poster)