Are/were you ever mistaken for the other gender?

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shibashaba
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30 Dec 2011, 5:15 am

I got mistaken for a girl all the time when I was a teenager. One time, when I was about 10 I think, my mom couldn't get the haircut lady to understand that I was a boy. The haircutter didn't speak much english and my mom had to take me somewhere else to get them to fix my hair.

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30 Dec 2011, 6:44 am

i couldnt answer the poll because none fit. i have been ,istaken for a boy at times, it was not my intention, i didnt aim to be mistaken for one but i dont mind. i get a kick out of it partly because i like being ambiguous, partly because i like messing with peoples heads and partly because i like thinking i have messed with peoples misconcieved notions of gender. i had shorter hair back then but my figure is slimer now and i wear mens clothing so im not sure if i could still pass. maybe if i was trying to pull off prepubescent boy...

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30 Dec 2011, 6:59 am

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:

I'm 5'6", skinny, used to be a lot skinnier when I was younger. So, even in my late 20s, I might be standing in line in a cafeteria and the server says "Ma'am"

I have nasal speech. Two possible causes. Two dentist told me that my uvula (thing that hangs down in back of throat) larger than average.

And secondly, I had a lot of allergies as a kid and something I've heard called 'deaf speech' makes sense. That's where a person needs to feel the movement of air because they don't hear as well.

I am sometimes viewed as gay. I think sometimes even as a flamer. I think my speech is miles away from any stereotypical quote-unquote "gay speech." One guy said I sounded like a damn Frenchman. That's more like it. Or maybe a New Yorker or Bostonian.

I don't happen to be gay. I am in favor of full and equal rights for lesbian, gay, transgendered, and bisexual persons, including the right to marry as an individual choice.

I think I would object to the cheap stereotyping even if I was gay. It shows the very limited number of categories some people operate with. And how some people are against anything different in any way (their loss)

My BIL doesn't have a uvula. His got cut off accidentally when they were taking his tonsils out.

You said you are mistaken for a New Yorker. Are you a New Yorker or do you live in New Orleans? If so, those accents can surely place you. If you want to do the NY sounding one, go with Brooklyn. I'm sure even gay guys in Brooklyn sound intimidating to the rest of the nation.

BTW, the New Orleans accent I'm talking about is Yat. My youngest daughter has it. We live in Alabama. Go figure.

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30 Dec 2011, 11:45 am

I never got mistaken for a girl offline but I started growing facial hair when I was in 5th grade & I have a very deep voice. I sometimes get mistaken for being gay because I do NOT act masculine at all & I'm sensitive, hate sports & like some stuff guys are not supposed to like so I think I might would of been mistaken for a girl if I looked & sounded more androgynous. I do have boobs thou because all my body fat gets stored there or my stomach

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30 Dec 2011, 11:46 am

I'm often mistaken for the world famous bearded lady

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30 Dec 2011, 12:03 pm

Back in college and young adult days, many times...not so much since I got classic male pattern baldness. As short as I am, and with the long hair and baby face I had back then, I can't count how many times I was called "miss" or "ma'am" in stores, and I had friends tell me they were asked, "who was that girl you were walking across campus with" -- when it was me! People aren't really as perceptive as they think they are, most of the time -- WAY too many thoughtless assumptions!!

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30 Dec 2011, 1:47 pm

Yes. When I was around 9 or 10 I had my hair cut short, and as I hadn't developed much in the way of breasts I didn't wear a bikini top and was challenged when using the female changing rooms/ toilets at the local swimming pool.

It was made clear to me that as a girl I was expected to wear a bikini top whether there was anything to go into the top or not. I simply could not understand this at all. This was in the 1970s so well before little girls got kitted out like little women the way they do now.

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30 Dec 2011, 2:00 pm

There's no way I could be. My face and body shape are very feminine.
I have been taken for a pre-op female-to-male trans person, though,
and also a lesbian,
because of my mannerisms.

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30 Dec 2011, 2:03 pm

yes when i was about 12 i had long hair and i was mistaken for a girl...then i cut my hair lol

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30 Dec 2011, 4:50 pm

MagicMeerkat wrote:

. . . My mom always was taking me to get my hair cut so it could grow back properly. I wish she would have spent that time and money to take me to a dermatologist to get the itching checked out and perhaps stop it. All the psychologists told my parents the itching was because of the autism. . .

The psychologists are mistaken. An itchy scalp could be caused by any of three dozen different things. And I think you're exactly right, that a dermatologist is the best person to see about this.

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30 Dec 2011, 5:17 pm

Merculangelo wrote:

I question whether I am more often mistaken for a boy than I am correctly recognized as a girl. I have short hair that I don't do anything with, I don't wear eye make up, I wear loose shirts (and have small bosoms as it is), but I can be wearing a short sleave t-shirt that doesn't go past my waist and girls pants that are as close fitting as leggings and still be mistaken for a boy. I guess my limbs are on the fitter side? And people mistake even after I talk, so I guess my voice is boyish, and I have speech characteristics that make people ask if I'm from New York or Boston.

And I don't intend the mistake at all. Only after the mistake is made with strangers do I hope they don't realize it because the situation is so much more awkward if they do. Someone who was keen on getting to know me will suddenly turn cold when they realize it.

If there were clothes for girls that weren't so tight fitting, thin, or made of cheep material, and weren't the most expensive brands around, I'd probably be much better off.

Its doesn't help a woman in her twenties trying to develop a professional reputation to be constantly mistaken for a 14 year old boy.

I guess it's that people focus on a relatively small number of things, to their detriment.

And then I guess they get embarrassed and defensively pull back, and probably overdo this.

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About your voice, is it nasal? That's what my voice is like.

I am a guy, slender, nasal voice. In earlier days, sometimes mistaken for a girl or woman.

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30 Dec 2011, 5:25 pm

OliveOilMom wrote:

My BIL doesn't have a uvula. His got cut off accidentally when they were taking his tonsils out. . . .

So, does your brother-in-law talk with too little nasal?

No, I have never lived in New York or New Orleans. I guess I just kind of talk that way!

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30 Dec 2011, 5:54 pm

No, never. Only online, if they never saw me or never heard my voice.

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18 Jan 2012, 3:30 pm

This has happened to me regularly , my whole life ,

ONe of my earliest memories was getting mistake for a boy at the park - and it happened up until age 12. I had shorter hair though. I have always been taller than average, had broad shoulders for a girl with slim hips and bottom. I also have a lower than average voice.

However, when I was 13 I started dying my hair and grew massive boobs. , I now have long blonde hair, a very pretty face , long nails and feminine makeup. However, when I have modelled before I have been asked to do stuff for Trans/ androgenous companies & magazines and I do still sometimes get asked whether I am transgender but ONLY by trans/ gay men in gaybars. Never by straight men or women . I sometimes wonder whether I am intersex as gay men are attracted to me.

I think I could possibly pass for a guy if I went brunette , cut my hair and lost the boobs . That's why I make effort to look feminine so as to counteract that.

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18 Jan 2012, 5:13 pm

A few weeks ago, though it wasn't the wrong gender at all, but the one I identify as. I only seem to pass to certain people, because I don't put an effort into it.

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18 Jan 2012, 6:01 pm

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:

I think some well-known actresses have deeper than average voices which is viewed as appealing.

Like Cher?

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