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I MUST stop my son from using the jokes of this comedian on the mom of a girl he is dating!! ! Her mom called me up and asked me to talk to my son about this. He claims he doesn't know the name of this comedian. He probably doesn't - that's the way he is.
Okay, hold on to your hats guys! My kid actually "said" this to his girlfriend's mom. She's letting it slide because they're both on the spectrum. I feel like killing him.
Joke #1: "Why are you starring at me? So you can recognize me from a police line up?"
Joke #2: "I just want your daughter's cherry and I want you out of my life."
Joke #3: (Directed at this girl's Dad while he ate dinner with them - OMG, I want to kill my son soooo badly!)
"Nice little place you got here. Soon it will be mine."
Neither parent is too upset. I thought perhaps they are hearing impaired. I would've thrown him out bodily.
I can't look at him right anymore. I just want to put my fist threw his face. Someone please help me. I feel like I'm going to lose it. What comedian is this?? Can everyone understand why I'm angry at him? He's 16!! ! I can see if he were 12 and saying this to a store clerk just to see what happens. I feel like I'm going to have a f'n stroke.

Hopefully this obnoxiousness is just due to him being a teenager and he'll eventually grow out of it.

Maybe when you're feeling less angry about this (I'd be pretty pissed too) you could try having a conversation with him about what kinds of things he likes to watch and who he follows. I would say try to seem non judgmental and genuinely interested. It might help you understand where he gets this stuff from and why he thinks it's funny. It might help you figure out how best to deal with the situation.

As a disclosure, I don't have kids. I'm just taking a guess about what I would do in the situation. So I could be way off base here.

I can see why you are angry. You should speak to your son when you can cool off. I don't know why the comedian's name would help you. Maybe just tell your son not to make jokes regardless about either of his gf's parents, if he is unaware which ones are offensive and which ones are not. Explain to him why they hurt and why they are not appropriate. Ask if he understands. If he doesn't ask which part of your explanation he didn't understand, then offer in a kind tone to explain it in other words. Keep doing this until he says that he understands.

If you go at him from an accusatory and angry manner, he like any other person will shut down and be less likely to listen to what you have to say to him. You have the right to be angry, but it may not help if he does not understand why the things he said were so offensive, so displaying your anger towards him may not help at all. Try to be assertive instead of angry since your goal is really to change his behavior so that he does not do this again. Suggest alternative topics or things he can talk about to his gf's parents instead that are appropriate. It always helps to not just tell someone what not to do, as well as why they shouldn't, but also to explain to them what they should be doing instead, and help them do that.

Am an aspie, but am not a parent.

For what its worth: If I were his dad...

At first I would have to be physically restrained to keep from killing him.

But once I cooled off I would probably just calmly, but sternly, lay down the law and just order him to "never tell jokes of ANY kind around her parents again. If you cant figure out which ones are inappropriate then just dont tell any".

I don't think he understands the meaning. Those jokes are so nasty though. Perhaps you should tell him what it means and why the don't like it.

When I was a kid & in my teens, I said some pretty offensive jokes thinking others would find them funny without really getting that others were offended by them. It's probably the same case with your son. Perhaps you could explain to him why others find them offensive & suggest that he refrains from telling jokes unless he's abuslutely positive that they aren't offensive.