The man vs bear meme
I suspect they're not seeing it from the perspective of being invasive, undesirable, scary, painful, or dangerous.
I guess it wouldn't be a discussion about the equitable treatment of women without someone playing the "some people just want to hate on men for being men" card...
Seems to me they don't dislike ALL men, just the ones with personalities that cause them to assault women - or personalities that make them catastrophically tone-deaf...
If people were more compassionate, maybe fewer women would prefer to be alone with a bear in the woods than a strange man.
I hate any advice which begins with the word "Just .... " The advice for victims to "Just leave!" is reductionist, ableist, and sexist against women. It suggests that abused women are subservient or dependent chattel who reside in men's homes with nothing to lose by leaving. Even if that were true, it's not easy to leave when you've been threatened or had your children's lives threatened, when you're tracked on GPS, and you're afraid for your life.
Most women and/or their children who are murdered by the woman's intimate partner are killed during her planning or actual execution of the escape.
The rhetoric of "Just leave!" causes secondary wounding. Not only have women been abused but then they're portrayed as vassals who should just walk out the door because they can't possibly own the mortgage or the property themselves ... on account of being female. What if the woman owns the house or holds the lease, and can't get the MAN to leave?
What if she owns a house and doesn't live with the offender, but he's committed to stalking and otherwise harassing her? Does she as victim relocate into hiding and lose everything including her support system, or should the justice system perhaps get off their collective arse and do something to remove and try these problem men?
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Would you rather your wife / girlfriend / sister be in the woods with a man or a bear?
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I had to get to the point where I didn’t care if I lived or died. My life was a living hell, and I couldn’t bear it any longer. It’s hard to get back into that mindset. Things were precarious for a while. That’s for sure.
Dismissive comments or those which make light of trauma in any way suck. Secondary wounding causes a lot of harm. It’s usually more about ignorance than maliciousness though.
I think the video is kind of a reverse-gender thing. Maybe the woman with the nail in her head is supposed to represent abusive men who want to talk about how bad things are for them, without doing anything to fix it.
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I'm just not sure how it fit with this topic.
you're awesome!...no, it has nothing to do with this thread...more to do with my personal life and psyche...sorry for clogging up this thread
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The fact that guys will see a meme about women being assaulted, and respond with a meme about how mean or annoying women are, is exactly why women choose the bear. If a woman runs away from a bear or expresses fear of bears, the bear doesn't go around on social media telling everyone how awful women are, growling about "not all bears", or how unfair it is that their species gets unfairly judged just cos SOME bears maul and kill people...