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10 Apr 2023, 9:28 pm

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Then how come when I was at school they were always advising children not to walk home alone through the woods or across fields because of vulnerability? Walking the street way home felt much safer.

Along with what others have said, I also think that in the past schools did not focus enough on danger closer to home. They focused more on “stranger danger” when the reality is that kids are WAY more likely to be abused by people much closer to home - family, neighbors, friends, or leaders/acquaintances from church.

There was a lack of awareness and, also, it’s not an easy thing to talk about for a few reasons.

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10 Apr 2023, 9:31 pm

My childhood abuser was a friend of the family, kind of related by marriage.

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11 Apr 2023, 5:58 am

This thread should come with a trigger warning

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11 Apr 2023, 6:53 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:

Joe90 wrote:

Then how come when I was at school they were always advising children not to walk home alone through the woods or across fields because of vulnerability? Walking the street way home felt much safer.

Because if you need help, there's more chance of people being around to help you or see if something goes wrong. I'm not saying woods are always safer or that everyone should walk in the dark, but I have scopophobia and daylight walking would be hell for me. People always know where I am when I go out at night and they can track me. I have GPS on my dog and also on my phone. I keep my emergency alert open on my phone too.

when my son was still at school they were advised to only walk the lonely routes if they were with someone and not alone

drugs are illegal here so people go to quiet places to take them so they are not seen

i think in london your more likely to get attacked on the streets but here in essex the weirdos go to the quieter places to look for prey

i would much rather be in a busy street than alone in the woods

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11 Apr 2023, 7:06 am

Joe90 wrote:

I don't get how many people on WP manage go for a walk in nature without getting raped, mugged or stabbed. Where I come from it's advisable not to walk alone in beautiful nature places because that's where such crimes are more likely to happen.

Maybe it's a UK thing.

I feel safer when there are lots of ppl around, even though I have been gang-stalked in public.
I decided NOT to buy a 100 acre block of land and build a house on it because it would be easier to be targeted without witnesses.

Personally, I wouldn't recommend ppl walk alone in "nature places".

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11 Apr 2023, 7:13 am

Yes, I don't walk in deserted places alone, especially woods where there are lots of places people can hide and jump out on you. If someone attacked me, no one would ever find me again or know what happened. I wouldn't feel so scared on a wide open beach or something.

Once I took my two year old daughter to a woodland play area. We were the only family there, and there were lots of workmen around maintaining the play equipment. It was spooky being surrounded by a bunch of strange men. Daughter wanted to to into the undergrowth to look for insects or something but I stopped her after a short while and we went home. It did not feel right being the only mum and child there. Trust your instincts.

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11 Apr 2023, 7:31 am

!	Cornflake wrote:
	It's getting a bit "triggery" here lately with details of several traumatic events, running the risk of triggering some readers. Can we please keep it a little more light-hearted? The thread is in "Random Discussion", after all. Ta.

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11 Apr 2023, 12:40 pm

Comparing my circumstances.
It's not crappy like the other's. Nor it's ideal.

I'm not sick, I'm not thinking of survival, no one's dying, I wasn't abused or molested or whatever tragedy...

I have no real reason to complain at all.
That's the logical fact of it.

And yet here I'm, 'not grateful enough'. :roll:
Still angry. Still resentful. Still. I'm sick of it. It's just me.

And that's what I really don't get -- if it's really just me, when it's not really them others either. Then why?

Then people telling me to be humble -- that everyone has it worse?

That's not telling me to be grateful. That just validating the fact that I'm an ungrateful bastard. :roll:

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11 Apr 2023, 1:02 pm

Damn, I had a really good point to add. Can't discuss anything here.

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11 Apr 2023, 1:05 pm

Joe90 wrote:

Damn, I had a really good point to add. Can't discuss anything here.

Make a thread about it.

I asked cornflake to assist me as the conversation on this thread was triggering. This used to be a fun thread to read.

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11 Apr 2023, 1:10 pm

babybird wrote:

Joe90 wrote:

Damn, I had a really good point to add. Can't discuss anything here.

Make a thread about it.

I asked cornflake to assist me as the conversation on this thread was triggering. This used to be a fun thread to read.

I think some of us just went off on a tangent. Sometimes happens in this thread. If I do start a new thread, where would be the best place to put it? Perhaps Cornflake could take the posts about it here out and put them in the new thread. :wink:

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11 Apr 2023, 1:19 pm

I'm sure you'll work it out

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11 Apr 2023, 1:45 pm

Why they made Anne Boleyn a black woman? Any British users here? What do you think?

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11 Apr 2023, 1:50 pm

^ Couldn't give a f**k as long as she can act.

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11 Apr 2023, 1:57 pm

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^ Couldn't give a f**k as long as she can act.

In that case, let's portray famous historically black individuals with white actors.

It doesn't matter as long as they can act, right?

White Obama!

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11 Apr 2023, 2:03 pm

I don't get what difference it makes whether an actor or actress is black or white?

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