Things I Don't Get

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Joe,

I think you tend to see things in absolutes. You take things in a very particular light, generally black or white, and then exaggerate it. When someone says something to you, you only see extremes, adding shades of meanings which posters did not intend.

If I were you, I would try to avoid exaggerating/catastrophizing which is not helping your reputation and, instead, attempt to see things how they really are.

We all have issues and concerns which extend beyond this forum. People have better things to do with their time and energy than bully you all the time. You told Isabella: "All you do is accuse me of..." That's utterly absurd. I don't mean to be rude, but most of us don't think about other members to the extent that you seem to be implying.

I need proof that I said you're in a cryptic club. I don't recall saying that.

^^^

And I hate to say it, but that's not my fault.

That doesn't mean everything I say is about you. It doesn't mean everything other people say is about you. It doesn't mean people gossip about you and everyone else in their free time. It means that in this specific situation your worry that things are about you (the turnip truck) got out of control and led to a snowball effect that hurt you, even though that's what you were trying to avoid. It hurt a lot of other people too. Not just me, but the other people who were lowkey accused of being in a clique with me. In fact I wasn't even friends with twilight or speaking to her on PM until someone (not you) said we were in a clique together and accused us of ganging up on people, so I messaged her to see if she knew what was going on. In effect, your freak out about the turnip truck which had nothing to do with you, started a cascade of other problems that now stress you out.

I addressed the turnip truck at the time so this wouldn't happen. I addressed it in several places actually, and you even wrote to me on PM so I explained to you yet again I didn't have any bad feelings about you. I thought it was resolved but then got slammed with more garbage about sides and gangstalkers and vendettas, and then you started a thread looking for sympathy for it all. I've already said there's nothing more I can tell you. I don't hate you. I don't spend my life talking to others about you. It would be great if you didn't keep suggesting to the forum that "sides" exist or that it's human nature to malign other people, because whether you know it or not a lot of that flack points directly at me.

I don't appreciate it because I've always been your friend and I've always been honest with you.

Please stop.

I don't understand why I would think a post about a turnip truck would be about me. Not saying you're lying or anything, because although I don't remember the post I still know it is true, but I don't understand my own self here.

I never think like this offline or even on Facebook, I seem to know people's intentions. But here I keep finding myself believing that something as random as a funny meme about a turnip truck is about me, without even realising that I'm starting up another cascade of unwanted arguments.

I've got weird issues. You're right - I will stop, or at least try to.

Can we...*pant*... just leave it...*pant*...at that now? *Pant, pant*

I made a reference to this meme, which I had posted before in WPAA. It was in my L&D thread called "Conversations vs. Disagreements" which I called "Disagreements and Arguments" by mistake earlier on.

Not trying to resurrect any of it but maybe it will remind you when you see it.

I was going through some personal shite but somehow this post of mine caused a derail which snowballed into everything else even though I told you at that time it wasn't about you (or anyone really).





Yes we 100% have our foibles. We all have anxiety disorders and none of us like to think people dislike us.

Really -- why does my reality shifts every 7 years?
And why 7 years specifically?

I did some search engine typing -- it's usually about a person's patterns, related to spiritual make up and some disapproved studies that every 7 years or so, our body is not the same as the old one.

I was sure at age 7, I did not plan to try and be as independent as possible -- that's a reaction to living surrounded by trusting no one.
My plan as a 7 year old is what most children are supposedly doing; having fun and living.
Instead we moved houses, I transferred schools, dad went abroad...
Shifted into a reality where I'm alone.

At age 14, I did not plan to have meltdowns, go through puberty and quit school.
My plan is to continue head on -- this is not what happened.
That's a reaction to a serious sets of dysregulation that no one seem to understand at that time. No one just understands.
I tried not to be alone. I'm only less alone, online.

Then at 21, I did not plan to play catch up.
My plan is to just work for 3 years then I'm good to go elsewhere.
No -- it's almost 7 years now. This doesn't feel growth -- it feels stagnant or too slow no matter how much I worked out.
I just want to solve this now -- and trying to do so alone.

I'm turning 28.
What unplanned major changes am I going to "wait"?
Couldn't do it alone anymore.


Does this pattern meant I'll be truly independent at age 35 instead? If so I'm looking forward to it.
Doesn't matter -- I just wanna roam freely into this earth.

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I don't get how people can disagree and still be friends. not with petty issues like preferring a sports team or book genre, but things like human rights (LGBT+ specifically). How can anyone stand to be friends with a nice person if their beliefs aren't?