28 Jan 2017, 7:53 pm
28 Jan 2017, 8:13 pm
Or if just one person reads it, that's enough.So here we go. I hope to make a trip to the apartment today, but I'm not sure. For dinner I have planned something I haven't made before. It's very easy, since I'm not gonna make the meatballs from scratch, they are store bought. I wonder if they are any good. I had bought saus that was on offer, so now I have to make something that goes with the saus
Norwegian meatballs ... that sounds good!
I went to a barbecued ribs restaurant after the art studio today.
I had ribs today too.
28 Jan 2017, 9:17 pm
28 Jan 2017, 9:46 pm
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28 Jan 2017, 10:07 pm
29 Jan 2017, 4:46 am
Or if just one person reads it, that's enough.So here we go. I hope to make a trip to the apartment today, but I'm not sure. For dinner I have planned something I haven't made before. It's very easy, since I'm not gonna make the meatballs from scratch, they are store bought. I wonder if they are any good. I had bought saus that was on offer, so now I have to make something that goes with the saus
Norwegian meatballs ... that sounds good!
I went to a barbecued ribs restaurant after the art studio today.
Yes, they where surprisingly good! Not as good as homemade though, like my grandmother made them. Maybe I will try and make them myself one day, I could get the recipe from my aunt.
Omg a whole restaurant with barbecued ribs, that sounds awsome. I love ribs!
29 Jan 2017, 4:51 am
You are always so kind Kraftiekortie
29 Jan 2017, 5:36 am
Or if just one person reads it, that's enough.So here we go. I hope to make a trip to the apartment today, but I'm not sure. For dinner I have planned something I haven't made before. It's very easy, since I'm not gonna make the meatballs from scratch, they are store bought. I wonder if they are any good. I had bought saus that was on offer, so now I have to make something that goes with the saus
I think it's awesome to try something new.
Hmm, I often wonder, when people tell me what seem to be inconsequential details, why are they telling me this? Like, in your case, are you trying to say that you were looking forward to trying something new? Were you hoping to start a conversation with a cooking lover or get recipe ideas? Were you looking for encouragement? When I understand how the details indicate something bigger, I get more interested, although I realize that things don't always work that way. I've been told, "People might just want to talk for the sake of talking."
Maybe it's a really different mindset. I'm always hoping to spark something in the other person or people: an idea, a feeling, a connection. So I feel a little moment of disappointment if I get nothing back. Compound enough of these, and I feel some level of disconnection. Does that make sense?
Awesome, tell us about it.
Challenging. Maybe post them on the forum if you get stuck.
I hear the stories from my friend who works with children.
It's such an awful feeling when you're powerless to do very much.
29 Jan 2017, 6:34 am
29 Jan 2017, 6:39 am
This is what I wrote in a thread about understanding body language:
A therapiest once told me that people who has grown up with narcissistic caretakers, can develop a unic ability to "sense" other peoples state of mind and then react to this. The explanation to this is apparently that these children are "forced" to take in their parents emotions, because the parents are to self involved to "see" the child. In normal development it is supposed to be the other way around.
The same therapiest said she thought I was like this, and I think she is right. Both my parents are narcissistic. I also think my autism makes this thing confusing. I have problems understanding why and what all of the small signals I pick up on really mean. So several therapiests have said that I am a suspicious person.
If I have a conversation with someone I can suddenly see that they seem a little sad (or something like that) and then I quickly think back of what I might have said wrong. Then I say what I think will fix it (make them look like they feel better) and that usually works.
Several people have said that I'm nice to talk to. That is interessting because the people who say this I wouldn't say are haveing a dialogue with me, no it's a monologue. They are talking, and I'm actively listening, asking questions and taking in there story (emotions). 
this is draining to me, I feel like I loose myself in these situations.
29 Jan 2017, 10:28 am
Why am I not tired yet?
Oh, right. I had a 10 hour sleep, following by a 4 hour nap, and I drank coffee at 11PM. (Less than 30 mins ago) 
29 Jan 2017, 11:59 am
Maybe it's a really different mindset. I'm always hoping to spark something in the other person or people: an idea, a feeling, a connection. So I feel a little moment of disappointment if I get nothing back. Compound enough of these, and I feel some level of disconnection. Does that make sense?
I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I don't want to let anyone in emotionally, and I don't want to get to close to anyone. I am alone most of the time. When I write here about what I'm going to do during the day, I feel a little less lonely knowing that someone has "seen" me.
That makes sense, but is that all you're looking for? When you put stuff out there then, you're not like me, waiting to see what happens next? That's how I feel when I throw out details about my life anyway.
I have a tough time believing you don't have much to give, but I do understand the concept of losing yourself in someone else's problems. You said that as an active listener, people appreciate you, but you feel drained. I can relate to that also on some level. It's one reason I wouldn't want to be a therapist or other type of counselor.
You're not saying that this applies to this forum are you? I don't believe people expect more from you or anyone else here.
Or their sadness might often have nothing to do with you at all.
29 Jan 2017, 12:13 pm
I accidentally submitted my Photoshop class assignment (a photo of roses, the assignment was to take and edit a flower photo) under the file name "Bad Wolf" 
Oh well, if anybody gets it, I know I've found another Whovian 
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29 Jan 2017, 12:24 pm
29 Jan 2017, 12:26 pm
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29 Jan 2017, 12:28 pm
Oh well, if anybody gets it, I know I've found another Whovian In a prob & stats class, another student asked a question about predictions. I forget the exact question, but they were confused and the way they asked it, time travel was needed to sort out the logic. The professor, a fresh PhD with an epic beard, explained the related answer that we could get, and then paused for more questions. Unable to resist, I chimed in: "To get the exact answer, I think we'd need Gallifreyan Math." Three people got the joke, but the professor was one of them, so it was worth it.
