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25 Sep 2009, 11:54 am

To say I'm a softy would be a bit of an understatement. Unfortunately I'm surrounded by a few very mean people.

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25 Sep 2009, 2:22 pm

Spazzergasm wrote:

do you just let them come out freely, or try to suppress them for the benefit of the other person?

Can't suppress them unless I have a lot of time to think about what I'm going to say. Sometimes on IM il write something and realize that it could offend so I delete it before pressing enter. But when talking in person I have a hard time.

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25 Sep 2009, 2:56 pm

TheDuck wrote:

Spazzergasm wrote:

do you just let them come out freely, or try to suppress them for the benefit of the other person?

do you realise it was awkward after you said it?

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25 Sep 2009, 4:18 pm

Spazzergasm wrote:

TheDuck wrote:

Spazzergasm wrote:

do you just let them come out freely, or try to suppress them for the benefit of the other person?

do you realise it was awkward after you said it?

only if its really awkward or mean and there is an obvious reaction by the other person

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25 Sep 2009, 5:00 pm

TheDuck wrote:

Spazzergasm wrote:

TheDuck wrote:

Spazzergasm wrote:

do you just let them come out freely, or try to suppress them for the benefit of the other person?

do you realise it was awkward after you said it?

only if its really awkward or mean and there is an obvious reaction by the other person

yeah, same. then I feel really bad, and try to pretend like nothing happened.

. it usully happens when i say something of a sexual nature matter-of-factly...and the other person doesnt find it such a normal thing to say. XD

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28 Sep 2009, 2:57 am

I'll usually be polite, if I think someone is wrong I'll tell them. If someone just bugs me I sometimes end up firing off quips. With complete strangers I'll usually play model citizen.

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28 Sep 2009, 6:01 am

Not deliberately.

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08 Oct 2009, 9:53 am

im not mean well i don't mean to be

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08 Oct 2009, 11:19 am

As a child if I came across someone that I didn't like, my behaviour may have been seen as mean by some NT's. However I only ever treated people how I would have liked to be treated myself......... with honesty. Now I just avoid all contact as much as I can so that means I only have contact with people I know well and like. Usually once every one understands each other there is no need for anyone to be mean. I will however stand up for myself 100% of the time if need be and I don't hold back if someone has a go at me. If that is considered mean then I am mean.

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08 Oct 2009, 11:38 am

Only on the internet I try to be a mean SOB.

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08 Oct 2009, 11:53 am

I'm mean because NT's treat me like dog s**t, and expect me to be okay with it.

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08 Oct 2009, 5:33 pm

Spazzergasm wrote:

would you say you embrace your abrasive behaviour, not caring as long as you've got it the way you like, or do you try and tone down a bit for other people/be a nice helpful citizen? if someone's willing to try and adjust for you, do you do the same?

i'm nice to strangers....but can be very mean if i get tired of someone. i feel so bad. :cry:

Don't feel bad if you do it to jerks, a**holes, and bullies.

Yes I can be very mean and when you see me mean, that person has probably done something to me and deserves it. I can also get mean when people don't listen to me and they keep pushing me pushing me and then I snap. I can also be mean to jerks and bullies even if they did nothing wrong to me but how they were treating someone can tick me off.
I am only mean to the right people, not to any innocent ones.

Oh yeah if you insult me, I might insult you right back. If someone gets all mean to me, I can be mean right back. I would rather not listen to someone if they are being all mean and nasty to me so why should I listen to them? They don't deserve my respect then.

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08 Oct 2009, 10:06 pm

When I was younger I would tell it as exactly as I saw it ,and retro- rethinking this now ; it came across as mean.
Eventually this just drove people away.
If I was provoked I could blow up ; but this only alienates .. if one has the self control not to retaliate, then they are taken aback with more force .

Now I use tact and tell it in a much more palatable way.

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