How socially inappropriate is this?

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Ahh, okay. I understand now! Thank you for clarifying.
The problem is, though, that most of the people that have ever given me a gift only went to Walmart a couple of days, hours, or even minutes prior to the gift-giving occasion, and bought some cheap little trinket or generic lotion that was either ugly or low-quality.
Not very much thought, time, or consideration in that at all. It is those kinds of people that my blog is addressed to.

Believe me, I thank each and every person who even gives me anything at all. They didn't have to give a gift in the first place, so it's nice that they did.

Of course, there are some who do put alot of thought and effort into gifting for the ones they love, and it really shows. My blog is not addressed to those people, as they really do know how to make the right "statement" with the gifts they give. They don't need to read some silly blog to know what I want.

(By the way, Spokane Girl, I have added you on youtube. )

My gut reaction was that it is HUGELY innapropriate, but I voted for the forgivable faux pas and hope that you can understand why:

Guest Arrival and Departure time is essentially a conversation with doors. You wouldn't tell someone else what to say to you; how to say it, when and in what quantity or with how much conviction, would you?

Whether your cousin's guests arrive early or late is their (nonverbal) statement about how they feel about your cousin and their relationship with him. By telling them when to come over and when to leave, your cousin and his wife are essentially telling their guests how they should feel about them.

Also, a arrival/departure time is a reflection of the partier, their punctuality and their schedule. Why on earth would your cousin and his wife want to stiffle their guests' "voice" in their relationship with them?


OK- I take it back: Dictating when the Party will begin and end, (like store opening/closing times) at a time your cousin and his wife think is appropriate for them is VERY innapropriate. Plain and simple. That, and it's selfish. I hope that someday they understand what a "party" really, really is.

I'm so sorry.
You're right, kitten and I am wrong. In fact I knew you were right all along, I was just trying to cause trouble.
Of course it's appropriate to tell someone what gift you think is appropriate for you. While you're at it you could simply pick out the cards you want as well and just have them sign them at the door before having the privilege of giving you a gift YOU chose. Perhaps you might also want to specify the specific monetary amount that is appropriate for you as well?

Actually, I know a lot of women (on and off the spectrum) who think it's no big deal to be conditional with their relationships with people. Most of them are pretty lonely, too.

Just curious- if all you were looking for was agreement, why post the thread as a question?

No I believe that you are perfectly right!
You made a really good point and showed that you are a person that actually puts thought and effort into the gifts that you give to the ones you love. People like you are rare.
Just look at the post I made previous to the "joke" post. No, actually, I will provide a revised, clarified, and empasized quote of my post for you, so you don't have to scroll back up and read the old one.

Oh, and by the way, I was not looking for agreement. The post is a question because I wanted people to answer. It is phrased "How Socially Inappropriate is this?" because I knew that to some extent, some people might become offended to varying degrees, depending on their sensibility. I wanted to measure just how sensitive people on this forum was to this sort of thing. As it turns out, the majority of WPers that answered the poll don't really care.

Please, don't make assumptions. As Ben Franklin said...
And please, don't exaggerate my words or add any hidden meaning that wasn't there, either. I believe that also falls under the "assumptions" category.