Lessons learned from WrongPlanet

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Sometimes I think I have learned this.

Sometimes I think I have learned the exact opposite.

In the year I've been here I've gone back and forth and back and forth with the differences and similarities. Sometimes I see similarities to myself in the people who are the most different from me. Sometimes I just can't relate at all. Sometimes I think, "I have learned that although I am nominally neurotypical, I must be genetically at least Broader Autism Phenotype or I wouldn't see things that way too." Other times I think, "we could not possibly be more different from each other". (This is referring to all posters as an aggregate, not specifically to b9 who I am quoting.) Still other times I think, "these similarities that I see are similarities amongst all humans and are part of the gigantic area of overlap between autistic and non-autistic wiring."

All in all, after a year I sometimes feel that I know less about the intersect or divide between autism and not than I did before I ever found this place.

But one thing I now know for sure is that the more metaphors a person uses, the better I can understand. So I do thank you for that, b9.

I was crushing back and forth with a guy here, quite a while ago, and than we didn't like each other, for a while.

Yeah. I felt like making a Transformers joke.

1. Try and not get involved in internet drama

2. Don't defend yourself, use the mods by reporting the person if they broke a rule but don't attack the user back.

3. Don't post about every single problem you have in your life

4. Don't post about your same issues over and over, you look like an attention seeker

5. Discrimination happens in the autism community too from your own kind

6. People in the autism community also judge and jump to the wrong conclusions than asking you about it first

7. Don't join I2 or Zomg, it gives you a stigma from the mods and they can spy on you there and take what you say there seriously even though you weren't really serious. So use a different email address and a different username and don't ever say who you are on here. Now say over there who you are over here. (I actually do have a stigma for this and I expected people to know me better by not taking what I say there seriously since they know me well here)

8. Do not say here you have trolled other places

9. Your past actions can be held against you here for life by some of the mods even if you have changed your ways. (yeah that happened to me too)

10. Anything here can be seen as a personal attack

11. Unique people here are seen wrong by a few people so they may misunderstand their actions and the kind of posts they make

12. You may do something aspie because you missed out on a social cue but because other aspies knew about that social cue, they expect you to know about it too so they assume you did it on purpose and was just being insensitive and a jerk and they hold it against you.

13. Read a whole post first before replying or else you look stupid

14. Aspies are no better than NTs because they are just as judgmental as them, just as dumb, and can be just as bad.

15. We have a banned user here who is not shall be named nor talked about since it falls under "Provoking people"

16. Don't use Zomg or I2 as a venting playground about members here, same as making fun of them to blow off steam.

^ Batting a Thousand

I've only been here for about a week now but from what I've learned as a regular on other sites...

1. Don't overdo it on the posts or you will not be taken seriously (there are exceptions)
2. Ignore the trolls, they live to feed off of others weaknesses
3. Think before you post, you have an infinite amount of time to do so so take advantage of it
4. Don't argue unless you understand the topic, if you don't understand politics or religion don't risk it
5. Proper grammar doesn't always translate into intelligence, it's how you word yourself that matters
6. What you say can be used against you in the future so be careful
7. Deleting your posts to save face is usually a bad idea
8. Spam isn't very tasty

I definitely got what you mean...
As far as I remember, there was actually a successful wedding here, I wonder if Marathten (sorry for the lame spelling) is still with her husband?
They both seemed to have been getting on very well... I can just say, its like a 50/50 thing going on here.

1. I learned that even here there are no people who remind me of me. Seems other members are more alike than I am to anyone. I'm an island.
2. I learned that everyone else here has more self-confidence than me.
3. I learned that the way to become popular here is to make a bajillion posts a day - and I don't plan on doing that for personal health reasons.

1. If you hang around long enough on WP and make a little effort getting to know people you can make some good friends on here. Some very close.

2. Personally I've learned to be a lot more relaxed and comfortable about my differences to NTs because everyone here is as insane as me

3. Don't make long posts because people lose the will to live after reading the first few lines of them.

4. Don't assume people always know or understand what you are saying in posts. Misunderstandings happen and it is better to be polite and conciliatory than to escalate a misunderstanding into a flame war.

5. If you post in the PPR forum you must wear a bullet proof vest or have a thick skin.

I've recently learned how to elaborate.

No this is an omg of agreement.

To get my obsessions out of my system, here, so that I don't tell every Tom, Dick and Harry about them, off WP.

Nothing.

There's nothing to learn from others that one can't learn on their own (if you can grasp an idea, you have the ability to make the same one, it's just that it's already happened before, and will again).

1. Instead of getting angry at someone for having the same special interest as you, use it as an opportunity to make a new friend.
2. There is a lot of "gray area" as to what is or isn't appropriate to talk about in the Adult Forum.
3. If you work up the courage to PM members who you find interesting, you might discover that you get along great with them.
4. If your interests aren't very mainstream, it's difficult to strike up conversations with others...
5. ... on the other hand, if you become obsessed with a subject that happens to be popular, it suddenly becomes very easy to converse with others and maybe even make a few friends. This can apply to real life as well as OTI.

I agree with # 2.

1. The rules here are not black and white, too many gray areas in them

2. When something from your signature disappears or your avatar, don't even put them back, ask first if any of the mods removed it to make sure it wasn't a glitch or else you could end up getting banned.

3. Talking about your issues you had from another forum and posting the link to that thread falls under "Attacking other forums" but yet if you talk about your issue you had on another forum and don't say the forum name nor post the link, it's okay.

4. Posting fun threads like "Who is the severest aspie here" is seen as a personal attack but yet posting "Who is the mildest aspie here?" isn't seen as one. Just don't post any fun threads involving members because you never know what be seen as an attack or ask one of the mods first to make sure the thread be okay.

5. You should ask people first before putting them in your poll