Can I have some advice?

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You talked about getting bullied and such... Do you think maybe that "towering over people" would be some kind of inherent defense mechanism that would prevent it, and that's where the desire to be so tall comes from?

The other day you were talking about being concerned about fighting a dude that was like 6'5" and you made it sound like his height was the primary concern in that case as well.

Your height won't change much bro, I guess if you looked at it in hindsight like "oh man things would have been easier if I was 6'4" etc" I can see where you're coming from, but the reality is it all depends on how you carry yourself.

I am just curious to know what it would feel like bieng that tall?

I tell you what happened when I was 13 I was one of the tallest kids for my age at school when I was 5'6 and a half. At 14 that all changed because my growth rapidly slowed down because when i approached 15 I was only 5'7, at 16 I was only 5'9 or 5'10 and now at 20 I am 5'11. In my mid teens I honestly thought I would grow to 6'2 or 6'3 but that never happened. When I was 16 and only a little over 5'9 someoen told me "I can tell you have not finsihed growing, imagine growing to 6'4? Keep faith". 4 years later where am I at? 5'11 so I got the raw end of the deal At 13 I had dreams of growing to 6'3 but instead my growth slowed down and a lot of my fellow peers caught up and grew taller than me. I should have known better judging by the size of my parents.

About my violent behaviour well I have always been a hothead. We can't all be cool headed right?

My dad was 5'10 or 5'11 and my mum is 5'2 just to let you know.

When I was 14 I was 5'7" and I ended up in the neighborhood of 5'9". No matter.

Likewise, there's nothing really wrong with being a "hothead" regardless of your size as long as you can do something about it when the time comes.

In high school I watched a friend of mine who was like 5'7" 120 get sucker punched by a dude that was 6'6" harder than I've ever seen anyone get hit in my life (and I've seen a lot of people get clocked), it spun him 360 degrees and he came out of it running straight at the guy, literally body slammed him, broke the dude's hand on the pavement, and beat the bejesus out of him.

Being "pent up" and ready to wreck like that can only serve you well, as long as it's reactive and you pick your battles wisely.

And I mainly bring it up because my buddy was one of the angriest kids you could ever imagine at that age, you talked about maybe "growing out of it", well he is still ready to smash on a hair trigger, but he grew up a lot and is now one of the nicest, most mellow characters you'll ever run across.

Maybe I am just going through a bad phase.

The problem I am having on a personal level though regarding my size is that it makes me feel uncomftable. When I enter a bar and I am towered by men over 6ft it sets of some type of anger inside my brain and its so difficult if not impossible to fight off.

If I am in a bar with men who are shorter than me its a different matter. Then I can feel more confident but unfourtantly when I am out on the town around young people rarely do I tower over people. To say the least my temper gets the better of me hence why I will probably have a VERY misrable life and will ruin it even more than I already have becasue of my behaviour and temprement. Even though I am average height I think in some ways being in the middle is probably the worst because although you will get guys shorter than you a lot of lanky men will be tower you as well.

Unfourtantly my height correlates with my mother becasue she is small. If my mum was very tall I would probably be 6'2 and hence life would be a hell of a lot more easy. When I was 13 as well I was a lot more cocky around guys my age becasue I was one of the tallest now that I am average height I act less cocky then I would if I was 6'3.

So it's a confidence issue. You need to find a way around that, as your height is not going to change.

I can say that if you stepped into a bar in which I was drinking, your relative height/build would make me no more or less likely to buy you a drink, nor would it make me any more or less likely to get in your face for whatever reason. Again, that would entirely depend on your behavior.

I can't say this is how it is for everyone in the world, but that's pretty much how it is for everyone I know

Even if I feel angry in a bar because I am surrounded by bigger men how can I control and monitor my behavoir so I do not get into trouble with other guys? Its classic short man syndrome really. I used to have tall guy syndrome when I was 13. Not anymore.....

I could always wear like lifts in my shoes?

Short man syndrome to my knowledge is pretty much unheard of for dudes that are close to 6 feet tall

I dunno dude, my experience tells me that while there are a lot of knuckleheads at the bars there are also a lot of good people, and being concerned about physical stature above all else will do you few favors. They aren't all out to get you.

I remember when I was super depressed and angry when I was like 22 I got in a dude's face when I was wasted and belligerent over a perceived slight (which turned out to be totally false). I didn't know the guy at all but he was like 6'2" 230 and apparently an amateur MMA fighter and I was right smack in his grill telling him I was going to beat his ass (if I tried I certainly would have been killed ) and he kinda laughed at me but was respectful and talked me down and we somehow "bonded" and I ended up peeling down drinks with him that night, as well as a few other nights thereafter that I ran into him at the same bar.

Maybe in HS the world seemed out to get you. But as you grow up a bit you'll see that, while there are people out there who certainly want to do you dirty, in adulthood they are not the people who simply have a physical advantage.

I am wide and muscular so that can only be to my advantage.

I defenitnly would appear short to guys in bars that are pushing 6'4 or 5.