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20 Jul 2011, 10:13 am

I just remembered that some on other forums would tell me to quit being EMO because they thought I was complaining. Apparently EMOs complain a lot & EMO has become a slang term for negativity which is related to being perceived as complaining


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26 Jul 2011, 2:33 pm

Joe90 wrote:
Does this really, really annoy you? You're trying to express your opinions, or trying to encourage someone, or telling someone how you feel, and people just shout, ''stop complaining!'' How's that complaining? Complaining is this type of thing: ''oh don't wanna do that, that's boring! I don't wanna do that either! I'm bored! I don't wanna go there!'' and so on. That's complaining. The other day I said to my family, ''why don't we eat our meal outdoors instead of indoors? It's such a lovely day outside,'' and one of them was like, ''stop complaining?!'' What the f**k?



I have no idea. I even noticed that when you tell a business about an error they did, they call that complaining but they do not say it to your face. They just tell their employers they got a complaint. Like if McDonalds screwed up my order and I tell them what I ordered and they got me this instead, it's still a "complaint."



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26 Jul 2011, 3:22 pm

straightfairy wrote:
I think most NT people only question many situations when they actually want to complain about it, even when they don't make an explicit complaint. Therefore, when we question a situation in order to learn about it, or make a suggestion, it's assumed to be a complaint.
I qualify some of my questions now to make it clear that I'm not complaining. How you phrase the question can help.

^This.
NTs are experts in the dark art of using questions as thinly veiled criticism.
I get caught out all the time, I ask questions if I actually want to find out something.
To be honest, I find the NT way to be pretty deplorable. How can I ever find things out when people are not accustomed to asking/answering genuine questions?