Are/were you ever mistaken for the other gender?

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It might be my less than manly build, neutral expression or, and this is what my money is on, waist long dull blonde hair but yeah, my gender has always been up for ridicule.

I often got confused for a boy because my hair was so short. My parents always made me get haircuts because I supposedly couldn't take care of my hair properly; but mostly because I was always I was always cutting off my own hair because my scalp was always so itchy and I felt that getting rid of the hair, made it easier to scratch. I didn't care how I looked, I was too desperate to get the itching to stop.

My mom always was taking me to get my hair cut so it could grow back properly. I wish she would have spent that time and money to take me to a dermatologist to get the itching checked out and perhaps stop it. All the psychologists told my parents the itching was because of the autism. Just about every anomaly that occurred with me was blamed on my autism. If I ever got stabbed in the head or was bleeding to death, I bet the ER doctors would just blame that on the autism and send me on my way without doing anything. Anyway, my hair had to be cut super short.

I've mentioned a few times here that I was somewhat gender confused, but I really wonder if it was just because I was sick of my mother thinking that just because I was a girl, there was some kind of law that I had to wear uncomfortable frilly dresses all the time. When my mother finally realized that those kind of clothes actually hurt me and let me dress in T-shirts and jeans, I think I finally was able to accept my gender, so I really doubt that I was truly gender confused. Because of my short hair, I was often referred to as "him" or "he" by stupid strangers who must have been color blind. Even if I was wearing a pink My Little Pony shirt, people would still refer to me as "him". When people found out the truth they were so remorseful and would apologize profusely.

I wonder if they were guilty because they thought I was going through chemotherapy and everyone always feels sorry for kids going through it. Personally, Chemotherapy would have been blissful compared to the constant bullying and being told it was my fault it was happening or I was just exaggerating. It's kind of hard to fake having cancer and going through chemo. Sure some parents pretend their kids are, but when they get caught, it's the parents who get in trouble and the kids are just seen as innocent victims. I however would probably be told it was my fault that my parents exploited me. I actually believe that.

I get mistaken for the opposite gender all the time. I'm actually female but I identify strongly with males to the point that I wish to be a man. That's why the gender in my profile is Male. The members who have known me for quite a while will also notice that my rank titles have been male names of real people and fictional characters.

Both pre and post puberty. Ironically, I have quite large breasts but my rib cage is so small that it's deceptive. It used to upset me a LOT but now I just don't care.

Not in real life, but online, yes.

Only if they can only hear my voice and not see me, and I have a cold. But it has happened (like that).

I played the part of the Wizard of Oz once in a community production -- there weren't enough adult-size men trying out. Extra padding made me a plump little old man and helped hide the shape of my breasts, and a suit jacket also helped. I roughened my already low voice and made it as masculine as I could. Friends in the audience told me that quite a few people thought I really was a man (especially if they hadn't looked at their programs.

Once while wearing an oversize hoodie I was asked whether I was my father's son. I'd have been a very plump boy: I was around five months pregnant at the time.

Most people on here I don't know the gender of, unless they've specifically said, and I managed to retain it until the next time I saw them. No way for me to get it from writing style.

I question whether I am more often mistaken for a boy than I am correctly recognized as a girl. I have short hair that I don't do anything with, I don't wear eye make up, I wear loose shirts (and have small bosoms as it is), but I can be wearing a short sleave t-shirt that doesn't go past my waist and girls pants that are as close fitting as leggings and still be mistaken for a boy. I guess my limbs are on the fitter side? And people mistake even after I talk, so I guess my voice is boyish, and I have speech characteristics that make people ask if I'm from New York or Boston.

And I don't intend the mistake at all. Only after the mistake is made with strangers do I hope they don't realize it because the situation is so much more awkward if they do. Someone who was keen on getting to know me will suddenly turn cold when they realize it.

If there were clothes for girls that weren't so tight fitting, thin, or made of cheep material, and weren't the most expensive brands around, I'd probably be much better off.

Its doesn't help a woman in her twenties trying to develop a professional reputation to be constantly mistaken for a 14 year old boy.

As a child i was, because i have never been able to stand the feeling of long hair, and i also hate the feeling of wearing jeans so i tended to have a buzz cut and workout pants, making people believe i was male because of stupid social stariotypes. I am no longer mistaken for a boy, instead people think i am a lesbian because of my haircut.

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Only online and I get a good giggle. But it's never happened here, just at other places.

I have also been told I look like a guy in one of my photos but I think he was just being an ass and then one of my other online friends said I had a boyish look so maybe that other person wasn't being an ass.

Nah, but often teased for having a girly/soft face growing up.

None of the options really apply to me. I am a cross dresser, and in my younger years (re before I got boobs...) I was often mistaken for a boy. I didn't mind, but I don't identify as male.

I'm androgynous.