How common do men rape/sexually harass women?

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I have been sexually harassed all my life, most of my generation's women dismissed this flippantly as "men just being men." That's what my mother said when I was sexually abused by my family doctor at the age of 12. That particular response though was not the norm at the time but rather my mother not having a clue that she was supposed to protect me.

Men who boast about their sexual conquests are applauded and women are often slandered for celebrating sex and are labelled sluts.

In this sexually permissive era young men are increasingly confused by the porn they watch, mistakenly thinking that what they watch many hours a day is what women actually want and like, and is the way a man/woman sexual encounter transpires in real life. It does not and should not. Women in porn are portrayed according to male fantasy. That's why men get hooked on it.

On the other hand, it's shocking to discover that teenage girls are sexting and exchanging nude pics as young as 12. I think it's a losing battle to preserve sexual boundaries in a society that is hell bent on lifting all taboos.

Women are not blameless either, they dress provocatively in order to drive a man to distraction and then spitefully attack him if he shows interest. Women who deny this are not being totally honest imo. Many false accusations of sexual harrassment have been proven in my country to be the result of a woman being rejected by the man so she wanted revenge. Careers and reputations are destroyed due to baseless accusations. Accusation is never proof of guilt. This makes it truly tragic because the serious cases of real sexual misconduct are not taken seriously. I think men don't have a clue what women want.

I smile a lot, at both men or women, that's my nature. I have had men coming on to me and saying " but you smiled at me, that means you want sex." No, it just means I'm having a good day and being friendly. WTF

These topics always involve young men worrying about false accusations who have never been accused or known anybody who has and women who have the experience of being in abusive situations and know this topic personally. It’s an extremely unproductive and possibly hurtful topic that I couldn’t bring myself to stay away from.

Most men will never be accused and most women will never be raped but both sexes worry about these things.

The solution for both is not to put them in risky situations.

Right...

Because rape only happens to women who put themselves in risky situations.

I’m glad you’ve blessed us with the solution.

False rape accusations only happen when a person comes from a religious family so she claims to her family she was raped to avoid being disowned. Another rape accusation comes from when a minor has had sex and her parents find out so she says she is raped to avoid getting into trouble with them. But of course if the guy was over 18 or over the age of consent law, she was indeed raped. But if there are romeo and Juliet laws in their state, she can still claim rape to avoid being grounded by her parents. These are the situations where a man is most likely to get accused of rape.

So don't have sex as a minor and problem solved, don't have sex with a woman who comes from a religious family that is against sex before marriage.

Men have very little to worry about.