magz wrote:
Persephone29 wrote:
I have friends, close friends who are gay. But they are the type of gays who are more like straights, in the respect that they don't barge into a room announcing they are gay.
All gays I know in person are like that - just regular persons. More or less open about the fact that their significant other is the same sex. That's all about it.
Well, I am older. And my friends have usually been even older than I am, so maybe that type of low profile approach is a holdover from the 'don't ask, don't tell' era. Maybe that is viewed as oppressive, I don't know. I still don't see what making everyone aware of one's sexual orientation contributes to a conversation. Especially since most people don't talk about sex over coffee, if they are just friends.
A mention of sexual orientation during a conversation about how my dwarf Azaleas are all of a sudden blooming in the cold seems odd to me; a non sequitur. Yet I see younger gays insist that everyone in a room know they are gay and it's a turn off. If rejected, they'll accuse people of being homophobic. When in reality it's just TMI (too much information)...
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