These 4 things set me off.

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People insulting me and acting like I'm stupid sets me off. I can't handle condescension. I don't need people pointing out my faults or acting like they're superior to me.

Yes, this, exactly this. This is what inspired this thread. A person who doesn't speak to me to convey knowledge, answer questions, or teach/educate. He talks down to me, belittles me, insults me etc = 100% condescending Prick!! And I called him out on it - well - not specifically, yet, but generally out of frustration with his Maximum Dickhead mode. Made it loud and clear that I am Not going to tolerate him speaking to me like he does - but in the fired up heat of the moment couldn't quite put my finger on what exactly it was about the way he speaks to me that makes me either want to end the conversation and walk away from him, or tell him to f**k off.

But now that I've had time to think about it, it's all the things I described here. It's not What he says - the transcript of Most of his words would read as acceptable, it's How he says it. Behaviourally, 70% of what's communicated between people is via body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, vocal inflections etc - not the words you say. I'm on the fence about whether it's on purpose or it isn't. I don't think the guy is an a**hole, so it's possible that he's unaware of his communication style being.. awful. But it's so consistently dickish that it seems 100% intentional that he's trying to start a confrontation or piss me off when he responds to me.

He then got annoyed and told me to stop yelling at him. I told him if he doesn't like the way I react to him, he should think about what he's putting out there - because people are like mirrors and will reflect back what you're putting out. His response to that was that it's only me that reacts this way to him so I should consider if it's me. I think others just have a higher tolerance for his BS and my tolerance level for being talked down to is near Zero.

Anyways, the next time he's a f*****g dick, I'll do my best to bite my tongue and calmly explain to him that he's a condescending prick in the way he speaks to me and that'd we'd get along a whole lot better if he changed his tune. If he suggests it's me that has the problem, I'll ask him how his relationships in the rest of his life are.. because how you do anything is how you do everything - and while he hasn't told me this, I've been informed that he recently went through his third divorce/major breakup, and a judge sided with his ex-wife and it cost him $ix figure$. Too bad no one pointed out to him how much of a prick he is a couple years ago - maybe coulda saved his most recent marriage and a hundred grand. In any event, I won't let him know I was told those things about his life, I'll just let him reflect on the fact that Obviously he has some communication problems & I'm simply the only one blunt enough to tell him what they are. Whether he wants to improve or opt not to speak to me is his choice. I'll give him the option of communicating with me via text only if he can't handle not being a f*****g dick in person.