Men and Women Can't Be Friends

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Disagree.

It does take work and you need to be on top of conversations to avoid unwanted cues.

Also there's certain subjects you can't talk about - particularly your spouse/partner because people often seize upon their weaknesses as a way they can be more "suitable" for you.

Online, with people you'd never ever meet - no problems.

I'm really bad with the cues. I seem to find myself in a lot of predicaments wondering how on earth I got there. I learned this early on and largely avoided people for a time. Online interactions are most comfortable. No terrible fallout if I miss cues I should have caught or mistakenly send false signals. My problem is that NT men seem to think I am romantically interested in them if I show any interest. I only have one romantic interest and I married him.

Disagree, because I have heaps of male friends. Online.

Disagree...qualified... I'm friendly with lots of women, but I don't really have any friends anymore, so it's kinda academic...

pbcoll, I don't think you are. Con artists are the least gullible people in the world, because they trust other people as much as they would trust themselves; likewise, horndogs assume that everyone else is a horndog and that men who say that they are not are just using it as a ploy (which some horndogs do).

I disagree with the title proposition; the two people I would consider my closest friends (one of whom is an ex of mine) are men.

I think that people should be friends, with whoever they wish to be friends, with.

A woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy.
- Nietzsche

In other words, a man can only be friends with you if he finds you unattractive, he is gay, or he is repressing his desires.

My brother and I were discussing this very issue recently. He said (pretending to talk to a girl)

"Hmmm... you're in my age bracket, you aren't related to me, you aren't TOO ugly... let's go to bed now!"

I am female and I have more guy friends than girl friends, I prefer the company of men. If they all want to get into my pants, I'm extremely flattered.

Disagree. Most of my friends are guys.

i think they can. just dont spend the nite

I don't think it's accurate to characterize all guys and all girls in such a manner. As others have pointed out, it depends on how hormonally-driven we are as individuals. It's not as if a guy is either Ron Jeremy or completely asexual - there is plenty of middle ground between the extremes. Also, When Harry Met Sally was an awful movie. ;p

I have a hard time with it
but I don't really get along with anyone

Couldnt disagree more.But Mikomi, do You seriously believe that?

More like girls can't be friends with girls. In my case they can't. I don't like being friends with girls, because I have nothing in common with them.

You can't fight instinct, you can only try to keep it under control. I've never had friends of either gender so I really cant say for sure. I did get along with both but never to a 'friends' level. One of the hard things I have now as an adult is meeting a girl that I really like and I just cant try to be just 'friends' so that messes me up. Not saying I try to sleep with her first date but just that I dont treat her as a friend but as someone much more special than that and it seems to make girls uneasy.

work in progress though!

Isn't being human hard? I guess we're all walking instinct driven maniacs.