blooiejagwa wrote:
Edna3362 wrote:
I don't like being emotional.
No matter how socially preferable it is, and no matter how well versed I happened to be in such manner.
I even wished to be more alexithymic, to be more stoic and in control, just like certain types of autisms do.
But I'm not.
It never helps being in a culture I was born into to try an aspire otherwise from it.
It's like trying to be worse than socially blind, while being already socially blind myself.
As per my 1st psychologist - alexithymia doesn't make u be in control. It can contribute to worsening the emotional state whioe unanle to know why or pinpoint it and have it come out as meltdowb or shutdown or frozen ferling. Can contribute to phobias. Emotional understanding using logic n trying to match emotions to reactions n multiple times a day documenting emotion from a list n why..was a big part of overcoming my agoraphobia with CBT..
CBT was impossible without it
Just to say there is a good deal more to work with n have CBT be more effective if u logically n over time find the pattern to feel and know ur emotions .
It helps in improving other things n has to b a continuous effort
There are no patterns as far as I'm aware.
And as I've been aware, I've already realized to be alexithymic isn't the right path to go to.
I've only recently trying hard to accept this sensitivity.
My own emotions... They're unpredictable by itself. Even from others.
I end up concluding it's more of a physical-hormonal kind than a psychological one, after trying to track my states and situations for the last 6 months now.
My psych changes yet it grows, I know how to break from cycles. I'm sure deep down I'm past due and much more.
It's frustrating that I cannot express it that way.
Because my body and it's states and reactions changes just as much, but it never been as resolved.
It's this part I'm trying to cope and trying to figure still... Yet also those around me tells me it's a part of being female -- instead of considering it might be more than just that.