cathy lynn
i do not know what i want the "meaning" of "life" to be.
if you claim that you want the meaning of your life to be making yourself and others "happy", that's kind of vague.
who are the "others", and how are you making them "happy"?
for example, mister redelings had the nerve to tell me "the meaning of life is helping people!". be more specific. Mussolini was "helping" the Gestapo. everything helps someone. everything hurts someone.
everything makes someone happy. everything makes someone sad.
for example, if mister redelings were to have exterminated me, that would have made homophobic precious lil "people" , "happy". there are a lot of them. and just one of me.

it would then have been

for the greater good

. the needs of many outweigh the needs of one.
plenty of precious lil "people" act so morally innocent and self important. like they have never done
anything wrong before and "the meaning of life is helping people!".
everything is "helping", neither, or "hurting". not all "helping" deserves a Purple Heart. not all "hurting" is a violation of Mandated Reporter.
the way some precious lil "people" make a big production. "is helping people important to you?" the previous counsselor asked me.
what the flying f**k?
the insurance paid her 75 bucks an hour to sit around flapping her trap at me. who was "helping" whom?
likewise, there are only five (or however many) emotions. "happy" is just one. happy is not morally superior to any other emotion.
i think most folks would know what i mean. you might find it satisfying and useful to pick some meaning for yourself.
hopefully, you and your therapist are helping each other. help needn't be perfect. looking for win-win situations is what healthy humans do.