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15 Jun 2020, 10:00 pm
dragonsanddemons
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15 Jun 2020, 10:04 pm
Edna3362 wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I’ve never had any tolerance for white supremacists.
Same. I wish I wasn’t such a coward so I could actually call people out on it and stuff, but really all I can make myself do is walk away.Same goes for other sources of undeserved hate, even ones that apply to me.
If you truly can't, start seeing them like a spoilt kids who can't truly grow up.
To 'discipline' them or not for yourself for their sake and everyone is up to you.
Why I don't exactly do get dragged into intolerance?
Because, to me, signs of intolerance may mean deep down to covet easy ways and slap it with 'equality'. And so indulging these things are guilty pleasures and everyone who does gets called out for.
So why not shame them who's "up there"?
Sure, guilt is an excellent tool. But it's a very abused tool -- it is not to be encouraged.
That's how the reflection of humanity and the mind works -- it's a tricky thing as an autistic though.
I'd say that kind of stance only perpetuates the system that made the prejudice in the first place; by demanding from said (already outdated) system.
Remember the lessons we all have in this very forum, along with the previous ways of the advocates?
"The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House"
People are not exactly doing this by their way of protesting about it.
More like said protests makes the whole point of said prejudices.
But believe me, they don't have any power over anyone. It's them who kept giving them by panicking.
It's just how most people are manipulated to do so -- the adage that emotions react quicker than the mind? That's the key.
Anyways, this is no PPR, this is what's in my mind.
Ugh, I had a reply all typed out, but then Capcha ate it and now I don’t remember all of what I said
Basically to me, it’s not so much about making someone feel guilty for mistreating people. I know I am not going to be able to change anyone’s long-held prejudices. It’s more about actually helping the person/people on the receiving end. For example, if the person wasn’t in any immediate danger, it was a quick thing, and the person on the receiving end was acting like they really didn’t want to make a scene of it, then I might only glare at the person dishing it out. But when a person is in immediate danger, having to endure a long string of verbal abuse, or is trying to stand up for themself but would benefit from another person supporting them, those are the times I really wish I could step in, if I could actually be of some real assistance.
15 Jun 2020, 10:57 pm
dragonsanddemons wrote:
It’s more about actually helping the person/people on the receiving end.
For example, if the person wasn’t in any immediate danger, it was a quick thing, and the person on the receiving end was acting like they really didn’t want to make a scene of it, then I might only glare at the person dishing it out.
But when a person is in immediate danger, having to endure a long string of verbal abuse, or is trying to stand up for themself but would benefit from another person supporting them, those are the times I really wish I could step in, if I could actually be of some real assistance.
For example, if the person wasn’t in any immediate danger, it was a quick thing, and the person on the receiving end was acting like they really didn’t want to make a scene of it, then I might only glare at the person dishing it out.
But when a person is in immediate danger, having to endure a long string of verbal abuse, or is trying to stand up for themself but would benefit from another person supporting them, those are the times I really wish I could step in, if I could actually be of some real assistance.
For that matter, what is your concept of immediate danger?
As someone with a screwed sense of danger myself, I have to ask...
Where does your desire of helping came from exactly?
If you see sympathy and helplessness, you may likely become helpless yourself to help the helpless.
If you see frustrations out of said helplessness, it can escalate with the wrong words.
If you see violation of one's dignity and pride, stepping in will be tricky if you're fettered or vulnerable yourself.
As an alexithymic, you also have to ask yourself that.
If, and if in the depths of your hearts you truly want to step in, you have to recognize that one cannot do it alone.
Kinda why NTs either go to others for inquiry or form a band.
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15 Jun 2020, 11:45 pm
Edna3362 wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
It’s more about actually helping the person/people on the receiving end.
For example, if the person wasn’t in any immediate danger, it was a quick thing, and the person on the receiving end was acting like they really didn’t want to make a scene of it, then I might only glare at the person dishing it out.
But when a person is in immediate danger, having to endure a long string of verbal abuse, or is trying to stand up for themself but would benefit from another person supporting them, those are the times I really wish I could step in, if I could actually be of some real assistance.
For example, if the person wasn’t in any immediate danger, it was a quick thing, and the person on the receiving end was acting like they really didn’t want to make a scene of it, then I might only glare at the person dishing it out.
But when a person is in immediate danger, having to endure a long string of verbal abuse, or is trying to stand up for themself but would benefit from another person supporting them, those are the times I really wish I could step in, if I could actually be of some real assistance.
For that matter, what is your concept of immediate danger?
As someone with a screwed sense of danger myself, I have to ask...
Where does your desire of helping came from exactly?
If you see sympathy and helplessness, you may likely become helpless yourself to help the helpless.
If you see frustrations out of said helplessness, it can escalate with the wrong words.
If you see violation of one's dignity and pride, stepping in will be tricky if you're fettered or vulnerable yourself.
As an alexithymic, you also have to ask yourself that.
If, and if in the depths of your hearts you truly want to step in, you have to recognize that one cannot do it alone.
Kinda why NTs either go to others for inquiry or form a band.
“Immediate danger” really would just be anything life-threatening, but I would probably extend it to any threats of or actual physical harm - probably I didn’t choose the best wording.
I think it’s a sense of justice, or maybe feeling that all people are equal and should be treated with decency, that makes me want to step in. It just goes completely against my morals to treat someone as if they are inferior to you, at least for things like the color of their skin or their culture or who they love. Basically I just feel that all living things (including animals of every kind) ought to be treated with a certain amount of respect/decency, and it angers me when people don’t do that.
16 Jun 2020, 1:00 am
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16 Jun 2020, 1:22 am
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16 Jun 2020, 10:29 pm
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17 Jun 2020, 8:18 am
It's like this cycle just never ever ever ends?
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17 Jun 2020, 11:37 am
17 Jun 2020, 12:11 pm
ImagineDragons wrote:
Edna3362 wrote:
When it comes to sensory issues, it's usually the 5 senses, yes?
But how about outside that?
I've been researching about proprioception.
All I kept seeing was it's dysfunction: the clumsiness, irresponsiveness, kinesthetic sensory seeking...
What about proprioception in a sense lacking filters with sensitivities, like the usual description with hearing issues?
In my case, the reason why my body moves rather well, it's this proprioceptive sensitivity combined with appropriate learning and thinking states to complement with it.
This sensitivity is more consistent than the lack of filters in hearing.
I keep sensing my bones and joints' weight against the gravity -- especially my head -- the weight of my clothes...
More than I kept hearing unprocessed background noise, room temperature, lighting, clothes sticking on my skin, etc...
My lack of clumsiness isn't just visual, spatial, combined with sense of balance but something else entirely -- it's spatial and kinesthetic-like, but nonvisual, nonauditory, definitely nonverbal...
At least a good fraction of the unexpressed thoughts I have are like this, other than nonauditory 'music-like' with rhythms and patterns.
There are even ways of thinking through sounds, touch and smell, but what about...
I dunno, direction and gravity?? 'Waves and frequencies'?? In internal and mental terms of thought, not just in external and physical terms of movement.
And I'm no physicist.
But how about outside that?
I've been researching about proprioception.
All I kept seeing was it's dysfunction: the clumsiness, irresponsiveness, kinesthetic sensory seeking...
What about proprioception in a sense lacking filters with sensitivities, like the usual description with hearing issues?
In my case, the reason why my body moves rather well, it's this proprioceptive sensitivity combined with appropriate learning and thinking states to complement with it.
This sensitivity is more consistent than the lack of filters in hearing.
I keep sensing my bones and joints' weight against the gravity -- especially my head -- the weight of my clothes...
More than I kept hearing unprocessed background noise, room temperature, lighting, clothes sticking on my skin, etc...
My lack of clumsiness isn't just visual, spatial, combined with sense of balance but something else entirely -- it's spatial and kinesthetic-like, but nonvisual, nonauditory, definitely nonverbal...
At least a good fraction of the unexpressed thoughts I have are like this, other than nonauditory 'music-like' with rhythms and patterns.
There are even ways of thinking through sounds, touch and smell, but what about...
I dunno, direction and gravity?? 'Waves and frequencies'?? In internal and mental terms of thought, not just in external and physical terms of movement.
And I'm no physicist.
Interesting stuff ! !
Oddly all my senses are also heightened.. my hearing is off the scale these days as are my reaction times ..
My mind is running at 100% these days .. plus my sleep patterns are all over the place - I only have 5 hours a day ( max) normally but now I may have just 2 or 3 overnight and have a siesta at noon ..
My anxiety levels are off the scale .. worrying about me or a family member getting really poorly with Covid19 ( or dying !) .. worrying about all the violence at our BLM protests / riots ... worrying about the missing girl “Maddie” disappearance case - worrying about how my role supporting autistic/aspergers teenagers get through the trauma of high school is going to change due to the virus .
Oddly all my senses are also heightened.. my hearing is off the scale these days as are my reaction times ..
From my own interpretation, it's not entirely a matter of sensitivity, but by lack of filtering.
It's not merely about intensity -- intensity would likely mean pain and shock...
But on quantity, overwhelm that causes confusion, interferences and distraction.
In hearing, there was a term called "Cocktail Party Effect".
At these... Dark times as they say, it's the least of my worries.
Instead of getting anxious about the dangers of the pandemic that had yet to happen, more like I would have to be faithful that it won't happen to those who I hold dear.
And the civil chaos?.. I don't feel the same. If anything, I'm really looking forward to it.
And my own sleep cycle is... The changes seem to happen every few days.
I've been tracking my sleep time and length in visual bars for the last 2 months.
The pattern indicates being constantly later in any time of bedtimes.
Somewhere along the lines, my bedtime had moved and accumulated few days later than 2 months ago.
17 Jun 2020, 12:28 pm
17 Jun 2020, 12:30 pm
17 Jun 2020, 12:43 pm
It was regarding Sensory Processing Disorder. I'm an oral sensory seeker (also funny 
), meaning that I grind my teeth and chew pens until they fall apart. PENS - not to be confused with penis. 
So in addition to my need for Chewies, she suggested I make thick milkshakes / smoothies and suck with a thin straw for sensory input. Likewise I could blow bubbles or just blow a cottonball across the table. Anything for oral input.
The vibrator was for proprioceptive input (e.g., on my legs) to improve the neural pathways damaged in my stroke.
The self-massage was also for proprioception and deep pressure since I'm a sensory seeker.
It was really hard not to laugh because it sounded so ridiculous.
"Do you have a .... hand-held vibrator? You should get one!"
She also suggested a Wilbarger Therapressure brush, to brush my ... skin?
This is getting curiouser and curiouser.
17 Jun 2020, 12:53 pm
I kinda wish I'd know my precise sensory 'diet'.
My stimming isn't done in regular intervals.
Actually, forget regular intervals in regards to my current lifestyle. Nothing consistent and planned sticks.
