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30 Jul 2020, 5:39 pm

I spoke on a state-wide call today on an important issue. That used up a lotta spoons. But I did well, my voice didn’t tremble. I was prepared. Am paying the price now.

Anonymous: I wish I could go with you to the meeting with the employment coach. Tell her/him what you want out of life and out of employment. Be optimistically realistic. :)


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30 Jul 2020, 5:46 pm

I feel bad for Muslims/people of Muslim heritage who are aspie/autistic/have anxiety issues and live in Manchester. They've prob been psyching themselves up for Eid, being with extended family. 9pm is too late to tell them they can't see family & change all the plans etc. When my anxiety was bad I'd spend all December psyching myself up over Christmas & seeing people & I think I might be that way again this year & if I'm finally emotionally ready to do it and on Christmas eve I'm told I can't do it, I don't think I'll handle that well.


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30 Jul 2020, 5:49 pm

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Anonymous: I wish I could go with you to the meeting with the employment coach. Tell her/him what you want out of life and out of employment. Be optimistically realistic. :)


I will do so, Lady Blazing Star, regardless of what my mom may say because of her OCD.

In fact, I may tell your quote to my NT sister who is still actively looking for work.


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30 Jul 2020, 8:30 pm

I wish I was in Makkah or Madinah right now. I'm thinking about how the people there are basically doing Hajj for all of us who can't and they hopefully do a good job.

I'm thinking about one of my sons Nurses who was born in Iran and saw that type of forced Shia Islam and how she is so much better than that and she is all the better for detaching herself from it. She did not explicitly say but from conversations I think she's had enough of all the obscuring and bad things in places like Afgh and Iran and just detached herself entirely. Funnily though she practices her life exactly as the ideal .. I got her an Eid gift but didnt say it was fr Eid per se as I did previously...
Juat said it was a present.. She was happy but in her rush forgot to take it home.

Im thinking about how something can be made so different from what it was with total lies pushed in to control ppl like in Iran and Afgh and how traumatizing and damaging that is. And to be whole again she needs to discard that entirely and that's how she embodies the perfect character she has. She's an amazing human being who gives her client her all with sincerity and intelligence in a calm and loving way. And a very gentle but strong person.

She is so wonderful. She's the closest thing I have to a friend in my life. :heart:

She transforms my son every visit she lifts him up and he is treated so well he thrives with her care. His top best nurses who were in harmony with his soul, had the best personalities, and knew exactly hpw to approach him so nuch so that they made the biggest difference with him
were

1. Parvin (elderly Irani lady). 2. Irene (Filipino staunch Catholic, my role model, sarcastic humour, taught him how to walk.)
3. This lady (also from Iran but Azerbaijan , which
Is where my favourite novel of all time was set)
For him the best of all was Irene. I think she embodies goodness.


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30 Jul 2020, 8:39 pm

Read some stuff that kind of shoved in my face how far behind most people my age I am, and made me go back to wondering if I’ll ever be able to live on my own, and am depressed because of that again.

I really don’t want to end up in a group home, way too close to way too many people pretty much 24/7, but I have the sneaking suspicion that my only options are a group home or living with my parents for as long as they can take care of me and then either be shoved into some group home or foisted upon some relative or other :(


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30 Jul 2020, 9:26 pm

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Read some stuff that kind of shoved in my face how far behind most people my age I am, and made me go back to wondering if I’ll ever be able to live on my own, and am depressed because of that again.

I really don’t want to end up in a group home, way too close to way too many people pretty much 24/7, but I have the sneaking suspicion that my only options are a group home or living with my parents for as long as they can take care of me and then either be shoved into some group home or foisted upon some relative or other :(



Foisted upon? Family must support each other surely.

I hope they do with sincerity and don't make one feel uncomfortable if that is what happens.

A lot of ppl are lonely to begin with and the household is enlivened by another relative staying. That person benefits the household too by being an extra set of hands for things, peace of mind and company so it is not one-sided .. Mutually beneficial.

Many classic novels describe xharacters in these situations and even more recent ones - and interviews of ppl from 60s and 70s you get the sense that this type of thing is not abnormal. Recently the 'nuclear or independent household' has been upheld as some sort of standard but that is unnatural. In nature there are variations and we aren't separate from nature.

The fragile stalks are supported by the stronger ones in gardening and in real life same with family members.


Have seen it happen in my extended family ..in stride not begrudgingly.

It's part of the tapestry of life... Help shouldn't be given in a miserly manner esp to family. If it is well...I know someone ehose adult son is at a group home (has Asperger's) and she said he has a blast. He came to stay over for A bit but was longing to return.

Idk
I wonder about this too.. What will happen after my dad can no longer support us..
My brothers... none of them is capable of independence financially nor in day to day life..maybe 1 could be but I doubt it. I think we got horrible genes and i also think ASD progressively becomes more disabling over generations

I give the illusion of some independence but taken apart most things i fall behind on or mess up on and my brother and parents help me out or id they don't things build up n worsen.. Everything i have 'help' for be it ppl to be nurses , cleaning service, etc

And still mess up
Or as X MIL said, i am 'low-functioning and dysfunctional'


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30 Jul 2020, 10:22 pm

Real estate ads.
Some are so poorly written it's laughable.
Today's selection:

"3 bedrooms carpeted with ceiling fans" - that's novel but inconvenient.

"Has 2 Sapphire Ming claims" - Er, who is Ming and what is being claimed about them?


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30 Jul 2020, 11:43 pm

Raleigh wrote:
Real estate ads.
Some are so poorly written it's laughable.
Today's selection:

"3 bedrooms carpeted with ceiling fans" - that's novel but inconvenient.

"Has 2 Sapphire Ming claims" - Er, who is Ming and what is being claimed about them?



:lol: Thank you for giving me an early morning laugh. Avoiding those fans will require walking in large circles!


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30 Jul 2020, 11:53 pm

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31 Jul 2020, 11:10 am

Unpopular opinion...
We should stick to the 2 metre rule after lockdown.
I hate being in a city like London or Glasgow or somewhere & people barge into you and if anything THEY expect the apology instead of saying sorry.


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31 Jul 2020, 12:03 pm

Wanting more coffee. And it's past midnight.

Cold, cold day today. Stormy season's finally going! Yay for the annual less fuss about going out. Nay for ridiculous timing for doing more laundry!


... Mom should continue packing these clothes, send them all away, and clean this damn room...


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01 Aug 2020, 4:57 am

Fed up of falling out with people but the only alternative is letting bad behaviour slide...


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01 Aug 2020, 5:21 am

Mangos. Hundreds of mangos. Mangos in boxes and bags all over the kitchen floor. Angie and Maha and Pickering and Carrie and Keitt and Carrie Seedling.


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01 Aug 2020, 12:13 pm

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01 Aug 2020, 12:32 pm

Lol Essex Boys keep calling KT macho... :lol:

I love him but he's not macho lol.


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01 Aug 2020, 6:07 pm

I really, really hate being stuck in the middle. Too disabled to live on my own, but not disabled enough to qualify for any sort of assistance even remotely near here. There’s absolutely nothing to help me here, except for living with my parents for as long as possible (unless you need to be told how to load a dishwasher but can hold a job, apparently - neither of which is true of me (and I’m not trying to belittle anyone or anything, I’m just still ticked off that that program let us get through most of the application stuff before we heard a word about having a job being a requirement for the program (and then they go around boasting of a 100% employment rate :roll: ))). I just have to come to terms with that, there are no other options.


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