dragonsanddemons wrote:
Read some stuff that kind of shoved in my face how far behind most people my age I am, and made me go back to wondering if I’ll ever be able to live on my own, and am depressed because of that again.
I really don’t want to end up in a group home, way too close to way too many people pretty much 24/7, but I have the sneaking suspicion that my only options are a group home or living with my parents for as long as they can take care of me and then either be shoved into some group home or foisted upon some relative or other

Foisted upon? Family must support each other surely.
I hope they do with sincerity and don't make one feel uncomfortable if that is what happens.
A lot of ppl are lonely to begin with and the household is enlivened by another relative staying. That person benefits the household too by being an extra set of hands for things, peace of mind and company so it is not one-sided .. Mutually beneficial.
Many classic novels describe xharacters in these situations and even more recent ones - and interviews of ppl from 60s and 70s you get the sense that this type of thing is not abnormal. Recently the 'nuclear or independent household' has been upheld as some sort of standard but that is unnatural. In nature there are variations and we aren't separate from nature.
The fragile stalks are supported by the stronger ones in gardening and in real life same with family members.
Have seen it happen in my extended family ..in stride not begrudgingly.
It's part of the tapestry of life... Help shouldn't be given in a miserly manner esp to family. If it is well...I know someone ehose adult son is at a group home (has Asperger's) and she said he has a blast. He came to stay over for A bit but was longing to return.
Idk
I wonder about this too.. What will happen after my dad can no longer support us..
My brothers... none of them is capable of independence financially nor in day to day life..maybe 1 could be but I doubt it. I think we got horrible genes and i also think ASD progressively becomes more disabling over generations
I give the illusion of some independence but taken apart most things i fall behind on or mess up on and my brother and parents help me out or id they don't things build up n worsen.. Everything i have 'help' for be it ppl to be nurses , cleaning service, etc
And still mess up
Or as X MIL said, i am 'low-functioning and dysfunctional'
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