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How can I become invisible? Why is it so g-d sunny again? Why are my sunglasses so loose lately? Am I walking properly? How's my posture? Is my dress see through? Can I do a pirouette on the street? Can I sit down if I'm tired? Where's my lip balm? Why do I always forget my lipbalm? Is the ringer on my phone or not? Do I have my phone? Do I need a phone? Why do I have a phone? I should get rid of all my worldly possessions and become a monk. What are female monks called? Would I have to wear a bra? Maybe I can Monk-From-Home?

I am a lazy and unmotivated person because I have Asperger's. I can not get a job because I have Asperger's. I can not drive a car because I have Asperger's. I avoid responsibility because I have Asperger's. I am the stereotype of Asperger's, a lazy and unmotivated person with excuses.

Only a cure to Asperger's will break the cycle of laziness and lack of motivation.

Thank you, I feel better now! I think it was my blood sugar, since I ate something and the migraine slowly went away.

The second one is how I think in public. I have to focus on sensory info and not tripping 90% of the time. If I'm around anyone I just think "please dont talk to me or look at me" and that's it. lol

It's pretty common for NTs to be lazy & lack motivation, especially these days & with the younger generation. Listen to the way some older people talk about the younger 1s That said I know from personal experience that Aspergers & it's various comorbids & disabilities in general can majorly contribute to lack of motivation & the appearance of laziness. Aspergers & commoribids have good reason to be considered disabilities & very unfortunately it is common for disableds in general to be thought of as lazy, especially those unlucky enough to grow up in more hard-core conservative areas like I did. It is very often stated that us Aspies lack theory of mind but in general it seems like NTs lack theory of mind & project it onto us. Nondisabled people in general tend to have a very hard time grasping how difficult it can be to have any kinda disability. Disableds are either expected to be completely capable of becoming successful & totally independent or disableds are expected to achieve nothing & be burdens on their families &/or the government & social welfare programs for their entire lives. It is extremely difficult to stay motivated when you know that you will have to fight aLOT harder to achieve much less success & improvement compared to others. Us Aspies & disableds in general can have a ton of potential if we are lucky enough to have the rite help & supports available & in place from an early age. Us being lazy & unmotivated is NOT the problem, the real core problem is Why we are. I really wish nondisabled NTs would start asking that question instead of pointing their fingers at Aspies & disableds in general.

I'm too much in my own head to notice others looking at me, if I'm around them, or lots of sensory input sometimes. I worked in environments that were very sensory unfriendly at times & was around lots of customers sometimes as well like doing custodial type stuff in retail stores while they were opened & dish-washing & when I was in high-school I briefly worked with my dad a bit who works in construction doing carpentry. I guess I kinda learned to tune things out. When I was little I would cry whenever mom would vacuum on the other end of the house but I'm not bothered by that noise anymore. I've done a bit of vacuuming as an adult at home & working & I've worked around louder stuff as well. I tuned the noise out some but somehow still heard & noticed most pages that I needed to respond to & heard & noticed the songs that were being played on the radio. I don't have great motor-skills, coordination, sense of direction, or good decent visual processing abilities(I'm very nearsighted even with glasses & have some colorblindness & not very good at processing visual stuff sometimes that I can see OK) yet I somehow only very seldomly trip or even stumble. It's a miracle I never been hit by a car thou when crossing the street. I cant always see when the crosswalk says to cross(depends on the lighting conditions a lot) but cars don't always stop anyways & not every spot has a crosswalk that tells you when. I look briefly in both directions & listen & then dart across when I'm out by myself & having trouble noticing when the crosswalk says or there is none.

Trans issues/identity is very much similar to step-family or adoptive family.

Saying this as someone who is both.

Biologically (outside of the brain at least) there is nothing making my stepdad and me father and son.

In terms of emotions, there is everything making this the case.

Our bond is that of father and son.

If my mum had died when she thought she might, she would have left my adoptive dad (not yet my stepdad) with a boy to raise.

But we have little DNA in common and I have XX chromosomes.

It's two separate things.

For me I'm both.

Get me on a task and I can't switch off.

Get me off a task ie on the task of being a lazy bum and I become a lazy bum.

But that is rare cos I always have motivation. Even if the motivation looks lazy.

A cure to capitalism will break the cycle of having to find conventional employment.

I see my inability to drive a car as partly based on autism and partly based on dyspraxia. If I wasn't dyspraxic, I could drive a car during the day. Not at night because when I'm in a car at night I shut my eyes to avoid all the lights. Unsafe to do that if you're the driver, fine as passenger.

I see my inability to get a job as prejudice on their part. I applied for every job I was qualified for in 3 countries, if I came across it. My only rules were 'can I speak the language' and 'do I have the qualifications'. Still didn't get one, ended up having a breakdown.

I don't think I'm unmotivated cos I have an MA.

Most of my MA cohort may have been NT but they were very stereotypically aspie. I ended up finding their geeky arses annoying Pure motivation to code or sort books or do Boolean searches 24/7 like robots.

The stuff thoughts are made of ? .....

I want to play Skyward Sword to distract myself from anxiety but the wiimote needs batteries.

Happy St Patrick’s day . Expecting snow Tommarrow.....

With the aces and pains in my body and other limitations, I'd be better off loom knitting items and selling them on Marketplace than I would at a part time job.

... I seem to meditate better whenever the discomfort of stretching is involved.

Maybe I'll try yoga. Or some workout involving flexibility. Perhaps some good bonus for my legs.

Have been seeing a surge in exercise leanings towards stretching , for older or mildly infirm persons . In the media
Recently . Thai Chi has been used for thousands of year in the Orient.

That rain is making me creative.

Nothing good .....must be the Ides of March