auntblabby wrote:
DeepBlueSouth wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
^^^^ IMHO that dream is telling you to get the H outta that place, and soon.
Probably, yeah. Got nowhere to go, though. Modern America isn't exactly a land of opportunity, and starting out from homelessness isn't a better option than living where I'm at during a pandemic, tempting though it was in the past. In Portland, I could have had a shared apartment and a guaranteed job after no more than six weeks on the street as long as I stayed sober [easy for me, I don't like being drunk and I don't use drugs]. Not to sound like I'm at risk, or anything of that nature, but whatever happens happens. I've done about all I'm ever going to be able to do in life. Some people are destined to have good families, great friends, be successful, and enjoy life. Then there's people like me. Doesn't mean I can't do things I enjoy by myself until my clock runs out. C'est la vie, n'est pas...?

so jog my memory, what is keeping you from portland again?
3000 miles and no money. Also, there's a pandemic and most of the counties my mother was considering buying in outside of Portland are kind of on fire right now, and that's going to get worse and worse every year. Two natural disasters is enough for someone her age, and myself too as far as I'm concerned. She doesn't have any family or friends down here, and I don't have any family or people I could lean on up there, though they might try to help me out, I value their friendship more than a chance at lower-middle class mediocrity in Portland. Rent and land value have skyrocketed up there even in the past two years, it's just not affordable, barely so even for the people who live there now. Besides, the only real difference between what I'm doing down here and what I'd likely be doing up there is that cannabis is still illegal down here [for now], so I don't burn. I just can't deal with NT's in the workplace anymore, I prefer to work alone. Most bartending jobs I get down here are off the table solo gigs where I make cash and keep the tips. Spending all the time alone as I have, processing what's happened to me in the past thirty years has given me self-worth and a spine. I can make enemies pretty quickly when somebody tries to use me or trick me into doing something I don't believe is right [this is the number one reason I don't date, and has usually limited the time I spend at any given job], I stand up for myself, which is fairly new to me.
Living down here is way more affordable on limited income [or disability], even if good jobs aren't readily available. Hell, each year I meet more and more Californians and Oregonians down here who've relocated [here] so they could afford to buy a house before they have kids. The West is about as close to paradise as I've ever seen, but beneath the surface, the same problems exist up there as do down here, and as long as wages are stagnant nationwide, and rent and mortgages are what they are... there literally isn't a city in America that I could afford rent in on my own. I've been stolen from and stuck with bills and chores so many times, I never want a roommate again, so I'm perfectly fine with taking care of my mother in her golden years, which gives me a roommate I can actually trust [and genuinely enjoy being around] to say nothing of free rent in exchange for shopping, cooking, cleaning, and home repair [which I'd be doing anywhere else on my own anyway]. As Alan Watts once said, better to have a shorter life doing things you enjoy than a long life doing things you don't enjoy, making money for other people, and working towards goals you don't believe in.
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