If I found out I was adopted...

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I would not care.

But see, those things are in direct contrast to each other. You've got a person who was adopted, who told her story on this thread about how she questioned it but ultimately realized that her adoptive parents were her family. Her life wasn't ruined by it. Yet you dismissed her life experience because, what? It was too sappy, too happy ending for you? In the real world, sometimes things go right.

If you hate something that's ruined someone's life, you're going to end up hating everything. Computers? I'm sure at least one person has been electrocuted by them. Cars? I'm sure you know how many accidents resulting in death and/or serious injuries happen. Nail polish? I bet at least one person's baby has chugged it and died. No matter what it is, its likely that there's someone out there who's been negatively affected by it. What you end up having to do is weigh the positives vs. the negatives. If people aren't willing to adopt, what's going to happen to the unwanted child? What happens if a child has to be removed from their biological family's care due to neglect and/or abuse? It's not the kid's fault, and it's not fair to lock them in an institution or some such until they're 18. Adoption gives both sides a chance to have a family that might not be possible otherwise, just as surrogate pregnancies and in vitro fertilization.



I don't think the desire to have and love children is linked solely to being able to give birth.

A baby feels a strong emotional attachment to his or her biological mother.

But just because you have a different color of eyes or look different doesn't necessarily mean you're adopted. My brother looks different from me and any of our cousins. Recently, one of my mom's cousins unearthed a picture of my mom's maternal grandfather, and when I first saw the pic, I was like 'hey, Dumbo, he looks just like you, Stupid!'. He looked like no one till we saw my mom's grandpa. I have the two pics side by side, and they actually look identical.

I meant outwardly as in externally. As in, cold on the inside.

If I was adpted, I'd simply try to deal wtih my life as best as possible regardless of what I might have to face in life..

I have a friend that was adopted, and she doesn't know anything about her family.
One of my best friend's (this is someone else) dad was adopted also.

I used to joke, that I was given up for adoption, by a destitute Cockney London couple, because I never felt that my parents accepted my special interests in all things, London or my accent, even after that horrible summer that I was 12.

I feel terrible, now.

My thoughts on the positive side of adoption:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrjwaqZfjIY[/youtube]
EDIT: Back to what RainSong said about certain people "desperately" wanting and loving children... this is what I'd say to them.

If I wad adopted; things would make much more sense to me because I have some inheritable disabilities that no one in my family seems to have. i wouldn't be surprised if there was some mix up at the hospital when I was born

I hate adoption at birth. Period. The very thought makes me want to vomit.

If I found out I was adopted, I'd still be exactly the same person as before.