Weddings - wtf?

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I love weddings... "Say Yes to the Dress" is my guilty pleasure... however, I don't think I'll spend too much... at least as far as my dress goes. Infact, I found quite a few stunning wedding dresses for under one grand... not bad considering you'll probably wear it once... unless your daughter wants to wear it...

Though if this is going to be my only wedding, which I do so hope it is... then I want it to be special... I don't mind splurging a little... Maybe not 20k though...

My family has always been big wedding people... though yeah... I hate those bridezillas, yuck...

I'll be getting married next month. But we won't be spending that sort of money. That is a waste when there are so many things the money could go towards, like fixing things in the house. Instead, we are getting married by friends near their home in the neighboring state. We will treat the trip as a mini-vacation/honeymoon. We will take our car up there. We are abiding by a budget. After we get back, we will have a simple get-together for family, and everyone can bring a side dish and we'll have a barbecue. and we will be married and won't be paying it back for the next 10 years.

If I do get married I would just have a civil ceremony, the Chinese tea ceremony (where the bridal couple kneel and serve tea to their parents and other elders) and a simple wedding lunch for close family and friends.

As a guest at wedding dinners with lots of tables, I find that I tend to remember the occasion more if the bridal couple are people I actually see regularly (e.g. my uncles, aunts and older cousins), rather than distant relatives.

one of the few times lol really meant what it says.....i didn't even click on it yet, and soooooooooo many hands are out for others emotions it's sick

I agree, weddings are a waste of time. I also think the same thing about funerals.

Hell no I wouldn't spend that much on a wedding. The less the better, it's just a ceremony, it's what comes next that matters, the rest of your life/time together.

100% with you, Descartes! I'm exactly like that as well.

I think weddings are nonsense altogether, it's an old fashioned outdated tradition. A paper makes no difference to how you feel about anyone.

I find it waste of money and I'd just stick with a short civil ceremony. But a honeymoon - why not?

The experience is different in my family. My cousin who had a very cheap wedding got divorced a couple years latter but their wedding was cheap because she had been living with the bum for a few years because she had a kid with him so they couldn't afford to spend anymore for the wedding.

I think weddings are more about having a party for the family & friends. I have very few friends & I'm not really emotionally close with my family & I'm very practical & shy & hate being the center of attention so I would rather elope with Megz than have a wedding but I'll do a wedding if she wants to plan everything

I went to a civil wedding a few months ago which just consisted of the legal basics, and it was a bit underwhelming. I can see why people want a bit more that this (especially if many people are invited to attend the wedding).

The problem is there tends to be a tendency to try and compete for elaborate and expensive weddings, particularly the reception after the wedding.

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The legal part of the wedding (or civil partnership) ceremony is very short (and [under Scottish Law] only needs the couple, two witnesses and the registrar).

For civil weddings the venue has to be licensed (a number of hotels and other venues have licences so it is not limited to the registry office).

Religious weddings (including humanist etc.) can be held anywhere as it is the person that is licensed. I heard of a case where a couple got married at their engagement party (unknown to the guests).