Anyone else hates lying?

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For an Aspie, I am good at lying, and 9 times out of 10 I don't get caught out. But usually the lies I tell are little white lies - not the type of lies to get me into deep trouble. but my uncle said that if you tell one little white lie, you sometimes have to cover it up with another lie, then another, then another - until it becomes a huge lie what could have you ending up in trouble. But I only tell lies when I need to, and I am pretty good at concocting little stories up, and they are very convincing too - I've even had the job centre believing me of something (long story to explain) and that was over 2 years ago now, and it was the type of lie what is easily forgotten. (And no - it wasn't as big as a benefit fraud - I wouldn't lie enough to get myself into s**t).

I don't lie on WP because this is the place where I like to share how I feel with other Aspies, and I don't generally lie, but sometimes I do. I'm not the type to make up BS to or about people then spread it around so it turns into a false rumour - I'm NOT like that. But sometimes I use a lie to get me out of social situations, like ''I have a bad headache'' or something, and that is a convincing white lie because I always get headaches anyway, and to prove I do, I always feel sick or have a bit of a temperature with it if it gets so bad. Sometimes I feel guilty lying, depending on what the lie is. If I lie to my mum, sometimes I feel guilty - but I don't often.
But once I had to lie to my mum, to stop her from being upset. (This happened when I was 15). I was supposed to stay with a friend after school, but in the day we had a bit of an argument over nothing really, and all day she never mentioned about me coming round (we had planned it last week, either she had forgotten or she didn't want me coming round), and I didn't like to ask, since a hostile atmosphere was left between us. You know how awkward it is, being a teenage girl, Aspie or not! And so I came back home after school, but my mum was still at work. I didn't want to text her saying that I had an argument because she always got upset and felt all sorry for me when my friends were being a bit nasty (you know how mums are with their children), and she especially got upset when I had fall-outs with friends because she knew I struggled anyway. So I just text her saying that I haven't gone round because her little sister had a sick bug. She obviously believed me, but I felt sorry for her not telling the real truth, but about 2 years ago I told her the truth, and she wasn't so hurt for me because I had long left school then.

OK, that's my long-winded theory about me and lying.

So Its not just me, I cant lie to save my life. It actually causes a physica, almost sick feeling.


Thought I would ask ?

Do you think others connect the two feelings? mental to physical?
I know one could worry themselves sick
but to lie , makes one feel badly or uncomfortable?

I think good liars have turned off this connection,

Lace-Bane cannot lie >_<. When he tries to, he feels so bad he confesses on the spot .

The only thing Lace-Bane can do is play with words mixed with avoiding certain details while stating something... not false, but slightly deceptive .

It still feels bad to him, even though that itself isn't lying

^^^ "Half of everything I say is a lie. It keeps me honest: it forces me to tell the truth at least half the time."

I have to admit that I do this sometimes...

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Last edited by Lace-Bane on 29 Mar 2011, 10:51 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I hate doing it, and I hate being lied to. However I am guilty of lying heavily in the past. I'll feel guilty for that my entire life.

i do.. i'm an NT or now at least i just think i am, i find it very uncomfortable to lie.. plus i cant lie especially to those important to me and it could read on my face, i could even turn red. but i can act and i will lie if i have to but only to strangers and only small lies and i have to internalize. but i used to be a very good liar, i was so good i only felt so bad for nothing and i just fooled a lot of people. so i could detect lies now like in 'lie to me' but not that good or technical, im just also hyper empathetic, so i could kinda sense if something's amiss with a person but only in their presence..

i hate lying and secrets, it works against other people and hold back other people from reaching or accomplishing fullest and honest potential and it especially work against the liar.. life could have been so much simpler and easier without lies.

*oh... and this post made me a velociraptor.. yey....

Congrats