Ever been mistaken for a homosexual?

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I'm probably asexual so I wouldn't be surprised if anyone actually did. After all I've never had a real boyfriend. I've never had a female partner, either. I'm still a virgin and it's only because I was born female that people don't treat me even more like a sub-human, although it really makes no sense since most people lose their virginity to someone of the opposite sex but the guy is treated like some kind of hero while the girl is treated like a piece of garbage. For years I knew nothing about asexuality, and assumed people were always straight, gay or bi. But now that I do know I'm glad to know my lack of desire is not really by choice or due to an illness or a side effect from a drug like everyone else.

Also I hardly ever wear makeup and wear only jeans t-shirts and sneakers most of the time. Why do such clothes look fine on a guy but on a woman she's some kind of frump? I want to feel comfortable and relaxed and what I wear is one thing I have control over in a world full of things that are the exact opposite of relaxing and comfortable.

And if anything I said sounded feminist and offended you, I'm... not sorry, whatever.

I have been accused of being a homosexual often enough, usually by those men who likely wore jockstraps and showered with dudes in high school. I see it for what it is, have a laugh, and ignore them accordingly. They're only half right, anyhow.

And they had best watch out. My celibacy notwithstanding, I'm the kind of guy who is willing to do for the ladies all those things their boyfriends refuse to...

I get read as gay a lot. Though being androgynous I get read as both a gay man and a gay woman dependent on external circumstances. Both of these things are both true and untrue.
But then I get read as straight too, and if read straight, I get read as a straight man rather than a straight woman. It's always a surprise when someone mentions a wife when reading me as male, I'm thinking "wut?" For a second.

I don't know about mistaken... It's never happened like Alan Partridge mistakenly thinking Dan can hear him. But I may have been assumed to be before.

Somewhat amusingly (though not particularly at the time) I assume I was assumed to be. It happened thus.
I was out with a mixed group one night and the girls wanted to visit the gay quarter. Better drinks, apparently. While waiting outside one bar, a male associate of mine struck up drunken conversation with the bouncer. He apparently implied I wasn't have a "successful" night and I'm not quite sure how one thing led to another, but the bouncer demanded a hug and asked if that made me feel better. I believe I was also called a "cuddly bear" or something along those lines.

I think some of my colleagues are unsure of my sexuality, but that's because I separate home life from work life completely.

A lot, mostly in high school and college.

No.. but I have been mistaken for a heterosexual countless times.

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I was asked if I was a lesbian in high school.