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is wrongplanet downbeat ?
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no 29%  29%  [ 10 ]
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13 Jun 2012, 6:06 am

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hmm this thread brings me the question of since when did not being happy become a crime? I mean why is it people feel the need to insist they are happy even when thats the farthest thing from the truth.



Huh? Where does that come from?


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13 Jun 2012, 6:12 am

In response to the question, the answer is I am not happy. Why the hell would I be happy if I most likely have a condition called autism that affects my life everyday. This condition is really starting to pi** me off. It annoys me daily. I can not cope with this condition for much longer. It affects my grades, my intelligence and my social skills. This also contributes to my lack of talent in any area and in my failures in life. That is why I am not happy at the moment. Bad luck I suppose, I guess I have to get through life with this condition :roll:



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13 Jun 2012, 7:11 am

League_Girl wrote:
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hmm this thread brings me the question of since when did not being happy become a crime? I mean why is it people feel the need to insist they are happy even when thats the farthest thing from the truth.



Huh? Where does that come from?


Just curious in general why it seems people have this tendency and I admit I was kind of questioning that you're always happy based on the whole post mentioning the facebook drama your husband told you to delete.


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13 Jun 2012, 7:25 am

I'm neutral right now.



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13 Jun 2012, 11:27 am

I think it's just a microcosm of the world; some happy, some not. I doubt if there's much difference, as far as numbers of happy & unhappy, between here and any other discussion group or forum.

Just for the record, I wouldn't trade my life for ANY other in the world... I would not want my ASD "cured", or changed in any way. I am that happy :wink:

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13 Jun 2012, 11:28 am

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13 Jun 2012, 11:47 am

Please delete; triple post due to Windows hiccup?



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13 Jun 2012, 12:03 pm

I'm not one of those super cheerful, perpetually smiley, upbeat people, never have been, BUT that doesn't mean I'm unhappy. I'm basically positive, optimistic, and find ways to be contented, satisfied, and to do things I love. Overall I'm quite happy. But I still reserve the right to not ignore the negatives, or the other side of any opinion, to speak out against injustice, and all of that. So I'm sure there are times that what I write on a forum doesn't seem as if it comes from a happy person.

Oh well. :D



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13 Jun 2012, 12:47 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
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hmm this thread brings me the question of since when did not being happy become a crime? I mean why is it people feel the need to insist they are happy even when thats the farthest thing from the truth.



Huh? Where does that come from?


Just curious in general why it seems people have this tendency and I admit I was kind of questioning that you're always happy based on the whole post mentioning the facebook drama your husband told you to delete.



Because I don't like to be unhappy. There are things in life that make me happy so just because we are going through a rough spot right now doesn't mean I am unhappy. Everyone gets unhappy and then they get over it. I am the same way and it comes and goes. Right now I feel happy.


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13 Jun 2012, 1:01 pm

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hmm this thread brings me the question of since when did not being happy become a crime? I mean why is it people feel the need to insist they are happy even when thats the farthest thing from the truth.

I agree there seems to be a cultural taboo against people being unhappy and especially expressing their unhappiness, as if it's wrong to point out problems, whether they're your own or someone else's. I think happiness and the need for people to be positive can be carried too far, and can lead to being in such denial about problems that there's never an attempt to solve said problems, or to help people who need and want help. Happiness can in fact be pretty selfish, when you think about it.

On another thread someone mentioned a statistic about the estimated number of people in the world living in slavery today, and the mind-boggling number (30 million, if memory serves) made me wonder if anyone in the world is really justified in being happy when that's going on anywhere in the world.

Our society seems to treat happiness as if it's a given, and it's not. As if it's always positive, and it's not necessarily that either.



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14 Jun 2012, 12:18 am

SpiritBlooms wrote:
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hmm this thread brings me the question of since when did not being happy become a crime? I mean why is it people feel the need to insist they are happy even when thats the farthest thing from the truth.

I agree there seems to be a cultural taboo against people being unhappy and especially expressing their unhappiness, as if it's wrong to point out problems, whether they're your own or someone else's. I think happiness and the need for people to be positive can be carried too far, and can lead to being in such denial about problems that there's never an attempt to solve said problems, or to help people who need and want help. Happiness can in fact be pretty selfish, when you think about it.

On another thread someone mentioned a statistic about the estimated number of people in the world living in slavery today, and the mind-boggling number (30 million, if memory serves) made me wonder if anyone in the world is really justified in being happy when that's going on anywhere in the world.

Our society seems to treat happiness as if it's a given, and it's not. As if it's always positive, and it's not necessarily that either.


That's interesting.

I usually get the opposite. People usually try to bring me down "to their level" (e.g. complaining, being unhappy, negative).

If anything, I've learned that people just don't like having happy people around them if they aren't. They will do everything possible to bring you down to their level and make you miserable too.

It seems whichever side you're on, you're not going to win.


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14 Jun 2012, 8:56 am

Kjas wrote:
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hmm this thread brings me the question of since when did not being happy become a crime? I mean why is it people feel the need to insist they are happy even when thats the farthest thing from the truth.

I agree there seems to be a cultural taboo against people being unhappy and especially expressing their unhappiness, as if it's wrong to point out problems, whether they're your own or someone else's. I think happiness and the need for people to be positive can be carried too far, and can lead to being in such denial about problems that there's never an attempt to solve said problems, or to help people who need and want help. Happiness can in fact be pretty selfish, when you think about it.

On another thread someone mentioned a statistic about the estimated number of people in the world living in slavery today, and the mind-boggling number (30 million, if memory serves) made me wonder if anyone in the world is really justified in being happy when that's going on anywhere in the world.

Our society seems to treat happiness as if it's a given, and it's not. As if it's always positive, and it's not necessarily that either.


That's interesting.

I usually get the opposite. People usually try to bring me down "to their level" (e.g. complaining, being unhappy, negative).

If anything, I've learned that people just don't like having happy people around them if they aren't. They will do everything possible to bring you down to their level and make you miserable too.

It seems whichever side you're on, you're not going to win.

It does seem difficult to not let others influence one's mood or level of happiness, either way. That's what I'm working on, finally, now that I'm getting older, and wish I had figured out when I was younger. How to maintain my own center, or be able to return to it more quickly if something throws me off balance.



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14 Jun 2012, 9:35 am

League_Girl wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
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Sweetleaf wrote:
hmm this thread brings me the question of since when did not being happy become a crime? I mean why is it people feel the need to insist they are happy even when thats the farthest thing from the truth.



Huh? Where does that come from?


Just curious in general why it seems people have this tendency and I admit I was kind of questioning that you're always happy based on the whole post mentioning the facebook drama your husband told you to delete.



Because I don't like to be unhappy. There are things in life that make me happy so just because we are going through a rough spot right now doesn't mean I am unhappy. Everyone gets unhappy and then they get over it. I am the same way and it comes and goes. Right now I feel happy.


I guess I was just being literal....always happy to me would mean you're never unhappy. But I wasn't suggesting you can't be happy over-all without periods of unhappiness.


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14 Jun 2012, 9:38 am

Kjas wrote:
I usually get the opposite. People usually try to bring me down "to their level" (e.g. complaining, being unhappy, negative).

If anything, I've learned that people just don't like having happy people around them if they aren't. They will do everything possible to bring you down to their level and make you miserable too.

It seems whichever side you're on, you're not going to win.


Intresting because as an unhappy person I have to say I'd rather just go isolate myself than bring others down. Then of course people get mad at me for avoiding them....so you're right either way you can't win. Why the assumption being unhappy is a reason to go out ofyour way to do everything possible to bring others down to?


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14 Jun 2012, 9:50 am

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Intresting because as an unhappy person I have to say I'd rather just go isolate myself than bring others down. Then of course people get mad at me for avoiding them....so you're right either way you can't win. Why the assumption being unhappy is a reason to go out ofyour way to do everything possible to bring others down to?


Not all of them, of course not. Not saying you do - or that they all do. I was mostly referring to the people I have to work with in my last post.

But many of those I work with seem to make themselves feel better - even if only momentarily, by bringing someone else down.

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It does seem difficult to not let others influence one's mood or level of happiness, either way. That's what I'm working on, finally, now that I'm getting older, and wish I had figured out when I was younger. How to maintain my own center, or be able to return to it more quickly if something throws me off balance.


It doesn't usually throw me off balance, it just gets mildly annoying when it's constant. It's their own problem, and I treat it as such.

On the rare occasion when they take it way too far - I have a little mini rant about it in my journal (or lately, on WP). Then it's over and done with, and I get on with more interesting things.


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14 Jun 2012, 9:51 am

Kjas wrote:
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Intresting because as an unhappy person I have to say I'd rather just go isolate myself than bring others down. Then of course people get mad at me for avoiding them....so you're right either way you can't win. Why the assumption being unhappy is a reason to go out ofyour way to do everything possible to bring others down to?


Not all of them, of course not. Not saying you do - or that they all do. I was mostly referring to the people I have to work with in my last post.

But many of those I work with seem to make themselves feel better - even if only momentarily, by bringing someone else down.


Well I guess I hate being brought down so I don't do it to other people, At least I try not to...I am sure I have unintentionally though.


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