What do you most admire in people?

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What do you most admire in people?

difficult question. it has vastly different meanings to me if i interpret "people" as "humankind", as "people around me", or as "someone i actually like"

if it's "humankind", past or present, then to me it's just something to be observed and studied. sometimes it's fascinating, but it's not something to be admired. if it's "people around me", then i admire them when they don't make me uncomfortable. it takes talent (and it's a talent that i try to develop myself). if it's "someone i actually like", then it's honesty. not unfiltered honesty (that's rarely a good thing), just regular honesty. it's really hard to consistently deliver honesty without being hostile, and admitting that you're wrong when you screw up is actually a major part of honesty. more than telling the truth, it's about acknowledging that truth is something under constant development

Open-mindedness is very often used by those who want you to let your brains fall off.

I like generosity, doesn't have to be material. I would love, more than anything, for someone to go out of their way for me. It would make me feel so special. I would marry someone who gave their all to me.

That, and open-mindedness, intellectual curiosity. When I say open-mindedness, I also mean someone who is able to take honesty, and be open to taking a look at themselves every now and then...a lot of people can give it but not take it. I can't always take honesty, there's tact involved of course...but I can take it more than a lot of people can, and I really don't understand it when some people say they like open-mindedness as a trait, when they don't appear to at all. Maybe because I'm used to insults etc. that I've built up more of a skin so I'm better able to look at myself? So my morals aren't necessarily the same as most peoples', and these so-called open-minded people think I must automatically be a bad person. Or these people claiming they like open-mindedness are just outright lying to themselves. Because they don't actually like hearing anything that could challenge them. Why admire open-mindedness in someone else when you're not even able to take on board the new ideas they present to you?!

Yes, this is something that pisses me off a bit. It's like the new "logical". THAT word got overused and now I believe the new term is open-mindedness.