Bouncers unfair towards men!

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And how did he respond to the push? seems a little unlikely that the owner would have made him leave for accidently bumping someone and them pushing him....so her pushing him must not have been the end of it, I suspect he somehow made a bigger issue of it.



Also that didn't prove that women are allowed to assault men at clubs, pushing someone who bumped you isn't physical assault.

When he bumped into her he stared at her for a few seconds because he didn't know how to react and out of the blue she pushed him quite hard. My friend confessed he was bit fustrated in that club because it was so crowded that night.

My friend is quite short or about my height to be exact which is 5ft7. I think I read up somewhere that men who are on the shorter side get on women's nerves.



Oh yeah to the point my friend was too shocked by her pushing him too react.

So your buddy accidently bumped against this young lady. And instead of saying "oh! I'm sorry. I didn't mean to do that !" he just said nothing? And she responded by screaming at him? And then when the bouncers told him to leave?

Is that the gist of your story?

5'7 is short? that is almost 6 feet tall...I doubt his height had anything to do with it, more likely the woman didn't know it was an accident and when he didn't say something like 'oh sorry' she may have felt threatened. Still odd he got kicked out if her pushing him was the end of it and he didn't retaliate.

Does the owner already not like him, or have there been past times he's acted belligerent enough to get kicked out or something like that?

5ft7 is 5 inches under 6feet. 5 inches is a big difference.

Oh yes and to the point the lady reported him to a bouncer.

This sort of bullcrap is why I stay away from clubs......

Personally I think night clubs are generally cesspools. They are bastions of drugs and alcohol and I think the benefit to risk ratio for men is lower than I would care for if I were a straight male. You have a high chance of not hooking up with anyone and a high chance of being murdered or assaulted by another man.

If you like dancing, take a dance class or join a dance company. They are predominantly female and typically need men.

If you like drinking, stick to local bars with a set group of regulars.

If you want to find a place single women congregate, try a cooking class. You are a guy and you like to cook, that makes you appealing from the start.

That's the most dumbest question I've ever heard.

That's the impression that I get. I've always had that impression.

Is that so? I can do reps with hand weights that weigh 30 lbs. I also look like John Banner which I'm proud to do so.

the united kingdom has one of the highest rates for violent crime in europe(if it isn’t still the highest), and it also has a heavy drinking culture. it’s not hard to conceive why bouncers and friends would be vigilant and protective of others when someone looks of potential trouble.

There it is...

Sounds like your friend made her severely uncomfortable, I understand he didn't mean to...but yeah bumping a woman at a club and just staring at her could certainly come off quite menacing even if its just because you don't know what to do. It sounds like she pushed him because he freaked her out, not because she wanted to be mean to a random guy.

It sucks but next time your friend bumps into someone he should probably apologize, so they know it was an accident.

As far as I know most murders do not happen at clubs. I am a little bit concerned some of you here are confusing clubs in movies with real life. I mean something can start at a club...but the likelyhood of the club staff/bouncers just standing by while a bunch of assualts/murder take place isn't a real life thing.

Also though there are certainly risks for straight men at clubs...I'd say it is a bit more risky to be a woman you can get date raped, something put into your drink so the perpetrator can come back and 'help' you once the drug kicks in. I mean a guy could have it happen to him to, but women large enough to carry off an average male are not very common.

I even once got drugged I left my drink 'just one time' to go to the bathroom and sure enough someone slipped something into it...luckily I was at a bar next to my sisters work which was a hair cut salon and planning to meet her immediately after a couple beers so she could cut my hair and then she was going to drive me to my friends house. So the worst that happened was she was initially kind of mad because she though maybe I had just gone and gotten all f**d up by my own choosing but then I told her what happened the next day when I had sobered up. I don't even want to think about what could have happened if I didn't have a plan to meet my sister. Also I can say that's the last time I ever let my drink out of my sight.

It's kind of ignorant to claim that an average straight male is more at risk than an average straight woman when going out alone to clubs/bars. Also its not always about hooking up...a lot of people go to those settings just to socialize or have some drinks not necessarily with an end goal of having to hook up. And couples go, I've gone to a Goth club with my boyfriend...and yeah if you're being a belligerent or menacing they won't let you in and I think that is a good thing.

assault doesn't have to happen inside the club.

Think you're making them out to be far worse than they are. Been going to nightclubs all my life and probably only ever had one incident.

Most murders don't happen at clubs, but there are a number of murders outside of night clubs every year and the victim and murderer are usually both men and the murder is usually over a trivial thing such as a perceived slight.



I agree that women are significantly more likely to be sexually assaulted, not just as a club but everywhere in general. However men are significantly more likely to be murdered or physically assaulted at or outside of a club. Women have safety in numbers but for men it's often the opposite.