Men and Women Can't Be Friends

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i'd prefer my current situation as 'human' than to have to sniff someone's butt to see if its the season.


ick.

^ second the above.

Let me put it this way ... those that are just 'friends' always have the hope it can go beyond that...at least once.

'tis instinct.

^ third the above.

Unless we say we just want to be friends, and we are being honest. I honestly have female friends I'm not attracted to, but thats something that I can not help. Its unfair to both of us if I'm not open and honest about how I feel, which is attraction much of the time. This is not something that I can control, its just me trying to be completely honest.


However, many guys are not honest, and say they want to be friends, when really they want to get in your pants. I believe thats much more harmful then pretending. This is coming from a guys point of view, so If you think a guy is not attracted to you, ask yourself this:

Does he have a girlfriend hotter than me? Am I attractive enough for him? Is he gay?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, than there is a good chance that your right, he is not attracted to you and its just a straight friendship. Remember, a man is not a robot; he is a human being that has needs that are very hard to ignore. Its best if every friendship you have with a man, you lay some ground rules. Basically, tell him you only like him as a friend, and if he is okay with that. I feel thats being completely honest, and its great for both parties.

There is a difference between friends and acquaintances. Most guys have tons of girls who are acquaintances, and thats fine. However, crossing the realm into friends has to be helped by a little physical antipathy, or the friendship will eventually die. The man will forever be wanting to be "more than just friends".

^I fourth the above.

I guess it is possible, just kind of unlikely. Months ago I had a "best friend" who was a guy and he happened to be in love with me. I let him know I was uninterested, but he would still continue to grab my hand. I think he probably would have kissed me eventually if I didn't tell him I would punch him in the nose as hard as possible, or ruin any chances he would ever have at having a child if he did. Things got extremely complicated when he came to my school, other stuff happened, I felt extremely betrayed by him, I hated him, he didn't understand why, and even though that stuff that happened at school didn't have much to do with it, it kind of evolved from that. To this day I still don't trust him. He apparently doesn't like me anymore, but he has been hurting people (girls) ever since he came to school. He basically likes a new girl every week. He currently has a girlfriend, but he is in love with somebody far away and not only let that be known, but writes stuff like he is "in love with 2" and continues to flirt with this other girl where his girlfriend can see. They started out as friends too. Both his girlfriend, and the other girl he is in love with. I'm not saying all guys are like this, but he's a freakin manwhore. He kind of ruins every relationship he has with a girl by not caring about their feelings whether he likes them, or they like him.

Why not? Why is it so strange? I've heard some people say they even married their best friends.
I guess I can't have good non-sexual relationships with any male, even relatives like my father or my brother or uncles or male cousins either? In fact, the thought that all opposite-gender relationships have to be... gross!!

Hmm that is strange, if that is the case how is it I have more male friends than female friends? Granted some of them are gay or bisexual, but still guys just the same.

I always thought it was women that couldn't be friends with one another.

There are no absolutes. Some people are capable of maintaining a platonic relationship, some aren't. Those who are not capable of maintaining a platonic relationship would be wise to avoid trying.

I have been friends with guys, and guys have been friends with me, nothing sexual was involved, and they were generally more enjoyable friendships than those I formed with other women.

However, men and women can't be friends. Society will not allow it. Someone always has to read sex into it; unless both parties are single, that ALWAYS becomes a problem.